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  • I’ve started thinking about being a femme lesbian.

    I started wishing that gay people could simply tell who’s gay, like having a definite sense instead of relying on how one presents themselves, because no one realizes I’m a lesbian unless I tell them. Even when I wear lesbian accessories, such as necklaces or the lesbian flag, no one seems to pay them any mind.

    Bars and clubs make me uncomfortable. They also aren’t ideal places for those of us who are seeking a serious relationship, so we’re left with either meet-ups or online dating. The meet-ups where I live are:

    1) for mostly white lesbians (I do not have a racial preference, but a lot of people prefer to date within their own race)

    2) for much older lesbians (I’m talking 50+)

    3) for already coupled lesbians

    4) are not specifically for lesbians (and in my experience there tends to be plenty of gay men and few lesbians or even bi women)

    With what’s been going on in the world, I can no longer attempt to attend meet-ups, so now my last resort is online dating, which is awful.

    The ghosting, the liars, the lazy, the immaturity, the passivity, the superficiality… it’s a nightmare to search through. With so many options, one would hope to find someone compatible eventually, but it’s mostly the same old.

    So, I’m taking a break from dating, i.e. I’m no longer actively looking, which can be a risky option since most of the time no one of the same-sex wil ever approach you, especially if you’re invisible/don’t look gay. But dating is upsetting and can be borderline traumatic for us. Therefore, you don’t want to overdo it. You really don’t.

    You don’t want to feel as though you’re undesirable, unwanted, or unworthy of love, which is what online dating can do to people. There’s nothing wrong with us. We’re simply different, and the more differences you have, the harder it is to find what you want. That’s simply a fact.

    This is why I’ll be taking it easy and continuing to do the things I love. It hurts to be alone. It hurts so, so much. I’m voluntary celibate, but I feel involuntary romantically celbate. However, I also recognize that I’m unlike most people. I’m unique, though not necessarily special.

    I believe it is possible for one to manifest what they want in life. Ergo, I still have hope that I will find the woman for me eventually, and I will love and cherish her deeply.

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  • Some guy that I was talking to on this dating site. Legit unmatched me and blocked me, just because I told him that I collect coins? I’m guessing you can’t share your hobbies without being judge. I love our society and the fact that everyone tends to lie about their interests just to fit in.

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  • Ughh I quit with dating its horrible I’m just gunna start wearing pajamas that way when they cancel I can just go to bed

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  • Please stop toying with my feelings 🥺

    I only want you.

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  • And just like that… I’m crying…

    #fuvk man i was having such a great day #dating sucks#fuckkng tired
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  • so, the only person to message me on this stupid dating app just revealed theyre looking to step out on their spouse. 

    As me about  how this fucking online dating thing is going…

    Grr. 

    #dating sucks #dating apps suck #fuckin' people man #people suck
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  • So, I joined Tinder. Please share your thoughts as to how much I will regret this. 

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  • Why ghost someone when you can just send a “hey I don’t wanna waste your time, this isn’t gonna work out. Thanks.” text? OR LITERALLY ANY NUMBER OF OTHER OPTIONS THAT RESPECTS THEM AS A HUMAN BEING. Just a thought.

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  • Every single “he’s a really great guy” were in fact not really great guys

    #not even just great #they were horrible #much fuckboi #elles dating adventures #elles tinder adventures #tinder#about me#personal #not marvel related #dating#dating sucks #ill be single
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  • Was talking to someone and thought things were going well and then all of a sudden I’m blocked.

    #whats the point #theres honestly nothing i hate more than being single #dating is pointless #dating sucks #just want a wife
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    #negative#dating sucks #like why cant i just date someone ive already made friends with #without damamging our friendship #honestly i dont even need romance #just like snuggles and same life goals and the willingness to work together #ugh#vent
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  • “Nah shawty. My heart is to heavy today to be tested and my desire to grow deep roots with a nother human to strong to be doing psychology backwards.”

    #me#mine#dating sucks#fuck#reverse psychology #that shits wack #nice to meet you again #quarintine #things ive said
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  • Listen, my level of depth and connectivity speaks for it itself. I’m a virile young man who’s Interested in spending my youth fucking. And I want you, if you want me we can talk about what you require on the back end.

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  • The talking phase is so exhausting. My 2020 New Year’s resolution was to ditch hook ups. All I’ve done was hook ups for the last six years or so. I’ve never been in a relationship, perhaps due to my shit taste in men. In March, I went back to work at the movie theater I worked at before and later transferred from. I moved to the city for a year and when my lease was up, I decided to move back home to collect myself and really evaluate what the fuck I was doing. For the past few months, I had sworn off talking to men until I thought it was worth my time and energy. In comes the guy I’m talking to now. Let’s call him, Mark. Mark followed me on Instagram a few days before my first shift because he saw me on the schedule apparently. Something about him was interesting. He was smart, clever, witty, and used proper grammar. We finally met at work, sort of. We never exchanged any proper hellos but we did have a bit of banter during our shift. Something about him was really pulling me in. I couldn’t tell and still can’t quite tell what it was. I wanted our breaks to align so I could get a better feel for him. Alas, they did. It was weird, kind of felt like faith if you ask me. Anyways, after that shift, I was a bit hesitant about all of it but we started talking more through Instagram. Then, quarantine came into effect. Living in a neighboring county of New York meant that shit was serious. We were then in the talking phase for TWO months before we finally had our makeshift date, a movie in the back of my car with seats down and a number of blankets. That was last Tuesday. On Sunday, we went to a park and got high and talked for hours. The most we’ve done is make out because I promised myself I wouldn’t have sex until I’m in a relationship. I know what you might be thinking, “this isn’t the medieval ages, sis. just do it”. But, that’s always been my method and I always feel so yucky after. But, as the world is ending and my mental health is on the decline, I find myself wanting to jump Mark’s bones. My sex drive is strangely high for how depressed I’ve been feeling but I can’t do it. The talking phase is getting to be a little rocky with him and I can’t tell if this is gonna go somewhere. So, I find myself needing to figure out where it’s going so I know if I should be optimistic, but it’s too soon and that’ll scare him off. I’ve always found that having sex too soon throws off the whole thing and suddenly, everything becomes sex.

    TLDR: I want to jump his bones but can’t because I don’t want to only be seen as a sexual object and even when they say that isn’t going to happen, it always does.

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  • It’s been a month since you ghosted, but you still cross my mind.

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    Originally posted by tumblewingss

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  • My dating stories:

    Laying in bed after having sex this dude hits me with “I’m not looking for anything serious”. Obviously I say okay cool. FINALLY A MAN TELLS ME WHAT HE WANTS. This continued for a few months. Then he introduces me to his friends, his family and parents. He’s holding my hand in front of them and kissing me. But when his niece asks who I am he said “a friend”. So I’m just thinking he’s over here fucking around. The next week we go out to eat and he hits me with “I hate when people start to catch feelings” I ask if he’s talking about me and he doesn’t quite answer but says if he thought someone caught feelings he wouldn’t even sleep with them again. We had sex that night. Then we stopped talking for a month and he hits me again with “why did you stop talking to me” after watching my every Snapchat story and liking every Instagram post.

    He hit me up last week and said something about how he’d want me to chase him.. it’s not happening.

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  • My dating stories:

    Was having casual sex with this dude. One day he asked to sleep over. I thought why not? He works at 6 anyways. Cuddles are nice. I DO NOT KNOW WHY MY FRIENDS STILL LET ME DATE! So his alarm clock goes off at 5. I’ve been awake watching money heist all night. I wake him up and he says he’s going to shower. I’m thinking okay cool let me get some sleep. I wake up and look at my phone. It’s 6:30. I thought he left and didn’t wake me cause he knew I didn’t sleep. NOPE! I turn around and see his shoes are still in the door way. So I get up and find him sleeping on my couch! HE CALLED OUT OF WORK!!! So I’m obviously cranky from the lack of sleep. So I tell him i need to get some sleep. He’s like that’s cool and lays back down. So I go in the room and try to sleep. THIS F*CKER STARTS WATCHING TIKTOKS HELLA LOUD! So I text him to use his airpods. 8am!! 8! He comes in the room and starts talking! Then gets mad when I flip him off. At this point I’m thinking he will leave. NOPE. He goes back on the couch and continues watching his tiktoks. I fall asleep for maybe a second. My phone rings and it’s my sister asking if I want to go to my moms house. FUCK YES. So I fake a family Emergancy and his f*cker dead a*s asked if he could just stay and chill!!

    I got him to leave after 30 minutes and that day he called me 4 times and sent 13 text messages. I think he knows I’m ghosting him now.

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  • My dating stories:

    Got connected with a guy I knew in high school after a couple of years. So we decided to hang out. I had a crush on him in high school. After a few hours of hanging out he got a phone call and told me he had to go and we should hang out later. I agreed thinking that meant another day. Little did I know an hour later he would call and tell me he was outside. After letting him into my apartment he started telling me how he had to help his friend and his friend almost kidnapped him because the friend was bored. Somehow his friend ended up hanging out in my apartment with us!! That’s not even it. Both of them left again!!! They said they had to pick something up. Little did they know the person they had to pick “something” up from was someone I use to date. They went to pick up coke. 🙄 AND ANOTHER FRIEND! At this point there is like 3 dudes in my apartment! Drugs and a lot of alcohol. Long story short. Highschool crush did too much coke couldn’t get hard. The next morning he didn’t leave and I had to try to kick him out but nothing was working so I told him I had to leave. HE WANTED TO STAY AND NAP WHILE I DID MY EARONDS!!! Obviously I said nope and that I’d take him home. ARE YOU READY FOR THIS?!? THE BEST F*CKING PART IS!! WHEN HE GOT UP TO PUT ON HIS SHOES HIS SHORTS WERE SAGGING AND THERE WAS A SH*T STAIN ON HIS BRIEFS!!! A F*CKING SH*T STAIN.

    Felt so dirty I showered like 6 times… he also told me that he loved me..

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  • So I’ve been ghosted. This isn’t the first time. And I’m pretty sure it won’t be the last. Would be great to have a relationship that would end properly though.

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