#demisexuality Tumblr posts

  • Idk exactly how to explain this but my demisexuality, for me, often leaves me pretty unimpressed with hypersexual people especially if they’re trying to flirt because I can almost always guarantee that I am not attracted to them. Sometimes i just want to say like:


    I literally cannot express the complete and utter lack of attraction I’m feeling like I am dryer than the Sahara itself rn–


    But really, for anyone reading this that isnt demi just thing about the fact that demisexuality means there is no sexual attraction without some sort of emotional bond. And I’m probably not feeling too attached to you if you’re trying to convince me to cheat on my boyfriend. 🤷🏽‍♀️


    It’s a basic respect thing.

    #demi#demisexual#demisexuality#flirting#loyalty #like come on please just leave me alone
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  • erm hey so i’m demisexual, guess thats a thing

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  • WANTED

    ace/demi bff… pls….i’m desperate….

    #PLEASE#ace#demi#asexual#demisexuality #also a teen pls I hate adults
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  • Here’s the thing: not knowing about asexuality kept me from knowing that I was queer.

    When I was younger, I sometimes wondered if I was queer, but the fact that I almost exclusively experienced romantic attraction and not sexual, and I didn’t know that they could occur separately, meant that I completely dismissed the romantic interest I had as friendship and admiration.

    It wasn’t until I learned about the asexual spectrum and split attraction that I came to understand that I was queer. And that despite my very infrequent and limited sexual attraction, I’d been interested in people of all different gender identities all my life.

    Knowing that asexuality existed would’ve helped me accept and embrace my identity much earlier.

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  • I’ve been struggling to explain to my friend about being demisexual. Things seem to confuse him or seem contradicting to him. And I don’t really blame him, it can be confusing and a bit complex.

    Like, for me, I can have sex and feel sexually aroused… but if I don’t have either an emotional or intellectual connection with the person… it’s over, just like that.

    Don’t get me wrong, that doesn’t mean I won’t have sex or I don’t enjoy it per se…. it’s just that I really won’t be that into it. It’s kind of like I start to doze off and my consciousness separates from my body.

    Meanwhile, when I’ve already formed a connection and I have sex - I’m into it, really into it. Like I want it all the time into it lol (TMI) BUT that ONLY occurs when a connection is already set in place.

    And it’s not like I don’t have the urge. It’s still there, there’s still a lot of self pleasuring going on (lol tmi once again) but when another person is in the mix… the urge can go away like *snaps fingers* THAT. UNLESS that bond has been formed.

    And Demi-sexuality isn’t the same for every demisexual - but that’s my personal experience as a demisexual.


    Anybody have any different experiences with demisexuality, or sexuality in general? I feel like it’s important to help people understand different perspectives.

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  • Sexually anorexic is a term I never want to hear again, but the writer of Scream was a man, so…

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    Can I talk about this to someone? Anyone who gets what I mean?

    I grew up in a family that just does not GET how I don’t enjoy sex from others, and they all look at me weird when I express this. I get jealous of people who seem to enjoy sex so much, because it seems like I should. I just don’t grok it. When someone touches me, am I supposed to feel something? Am I broken by past abuse, or am I frigid? Or is this simply a normal state of being that I can embrace, as I am unable to be seduced?

    Someone out there has to understand. I’m looking for solidarity. I need to know it’s okay to be like this.

    It’s like being the non-drinker at a party.

    #demisexuality #day in the life of maldrea
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    Healthy sex talk with demisexuality subject, Lovestruck is just amazing, APP game n° 1 in diversity 👍👍💜💜💜

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    I tried (it didn’t work that much) to do some lockscreens with one of my fav quote of RuPaul’s song with some ace spec flags….if you have any suggestions/other flags to do, pls tell me💚🖤💜

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  • Guy #1 - going out for two years, talked about asexuality once in a while, eventually broke up because he thought that asexuality is my choice and I can change that

    Guy #2 - going out for 5 months, talked about asexuality only when Mario Adrion came out and I was proud so much, broke up because my joy was “obtruding him with this abnormality”

    Guy #3 - going out for a year, talked frequently about asexuality, sex etc., broke up because of after a year he “finally realised I won’t sleep with him”


    Note: I don’t believe that either guy is a bad person. I just think that the society where sex is everything unables me to have a satisfying relationship without sex. 

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  • demisexual/demiromantic problems

    1) can’t predict when attraction or affection will appear but

    2) when it does appear, the demi in question is too afraid to actually do something about it

    3) which means the object of said attraction or affection may never know

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  • #this is weird i rarely get asks #it was nice tho #ask#ask box#asks#demisexuality#demisexual
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  • Me: *tells a person I think they look cute*

    Person: “oh you think I’m cute, you must want to sleep with me!”

    Me: lol no I haven’t written any poems about you, I definitely do not want to sleep with you

    #about me#polyamory#demisexual#demisexuality #been very much feeling heavily on the ace end of the spectrum these past few months
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  • Mizutani Shizuko from My Little Monster could definitely be read as demisexual, right?

    Like, I don’t if there’s a manga and if it’s different, but in the anime she doesn’t show any interest in anyone either romantically or in terms of physical attraction until Haru, and not until she gets to know him.

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    • Me: Well, the good news is: you don't have to date someone who doesn't like you! There are lots of people who will like you for you!
    • Boyfriend: No, see, a lot of people will STILL be attracted to people who don't like them back, and then they'll get upset when they get rejected. That's just life.
    • Me: ... I don't get it. Why would you be attracted to someone who isn't attracted to you?
    • Boyfriend: ... Not everyone is demisexual, honey.
    • Me: ... Oh ... right.
    #i don't remember the context of this conversation #mostly i just remember this part #this is the most demi thing I've ever said #demisexuality#page talks
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  • It wouldn’t bother me if people wanted to exclude me, personally, from the LGBT+ umbrella because I’m just a single dandy gray-ace (I’m not even aromantic; by many people’s standards I’m “basically straight,” even though that’s debatable) who doesn’t mind *not* benefiting from the community, but on a general, beliefs-level I think it’s important for Ace people (& other identities) to be included. Like, I’ll reblog posts about inclusion & supporting the community but I’m not trying to push my way in–it’s not as essential for me as it is for others because I don’t face (any? nearly as much?) discrimination (for various reasons I won’t get into here). This isn’t meant to be discourse; I just wanted to express my personal stance to those who may want to get to know me better.

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    @theoneandonlyshipqueen​  We can be happy with our demisexuality in many ways, if it needs to go through understanding how different it is from the allosexual experience, thus how real and valid it is, this is a good way.

    Aphobes like to invalidate demisexuality by sayng “that’s how everyone is” and it can be confusing for a demi person who have factual experience that it’s not true. We’re confronted to allosexuality and alloromanticism in our everyday lives so when allosexuals say there is no confrontation at all, they either gaslight us, or are demisexual themselves and in denial. 

    To accept that I’m demisexual, I had to accept and understand allosexuals, I had to accept that allosexuality doesn’t make anyone a potential sexual offender. Not only it was necessary for recovering from my own trauma, to be happy in my own sexuality, but it was also a moral duty. You don’t call rapist someone who just happens to have sex with strangers, that’s fucked. If you’re scared of allosexuals based on their potential sexual agressivity, yeah that’s definitely something you need to overcome. No one can live like this - no one should, indenpendently of your sexual orientation.

    But even if you’re not afraid or angry at allosexuals, watching allosexuality outside of allonormativity - just like a sexual orientation like another - can make us immune to allo gaslight or the confusion of demi in denial, and help us accepting ourselves indeed.

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  • like i cant believe theres ppl still out there who think demisexual is just a way to say “i dont put out easy/do casual sex” but it’s like … no .. i am literally not sexually attracted to ppl i do not have feelings for. they can be extremely gorgeous and know how to flip all my switches but if im not feelin’ them, nothings gonna rise out of me


    only the chosen make this bitch thirsty

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