poly person rants about the vampire diaries
i’m only partway through the 4th season so bear with me & no spoilers please. also potential spoilers after the cut, but if you know Of this show then most of it won’t be that surprising.
also yeah this is basically just a poly person using the love triangle in tvd to rant about love triangles in general because the world definitely asked for my opinion.
i was starting to get annoyed, not with the entire show because i am enjoying it (i love pretty much anything with vampires in it though), but with the love “triangle” that appears all the time in media and in real life. it’s also not really a triangle, it’s more like two lines pointing to elena, but we can call it a triangle for now.
the two love interests are vampire brothers who are in love with the main character, elena, pretty much from the get go, while elena is loyal to stefan for the first 2 seasons and doesn’t even like damon that much. however, at around season 3 she grows closer to him due to Circumstances, and i feel like i can remember the main theme of every episode towards the end of the season being about how she has to choose between the two of them because it’s “not fair”.
and that reminded me that media is always going to see shit like this through the lense of monogamy because god Forbid anyone lives a little differently and more conveniently in a way actually adjusted to their needs. i think society would just Collapse. but i digress.
the show is desperate for us to know that both of these people are perfect for elena, but in different ways. and that’s why it’s so hard to choose (because she has to choose, guys, u don’t get it). i even distinctly remember dr fell saying something about how stefan’s love is “pure” and shit, which makes sense because he helped her out of her depression (after losing her parents) and also always lets her make her own decisions, even if they’re dumb and she’ll end up dead.
damon, on the other hand, is the complete opposite. he “challenges” elena and usually acts very selfishly and goes against her wishes, but in a way that will protect her. i literally think he is the sole reason she has made it this far in the show.
this is an unnecessary roadblock cuz like. the show literally highlights how both of these relationships are equally important and fulfilling for her & then spits on it. i don’t know, i hate it here.
the main reason it would be not possible is obviously the fact that the brothers literally hate each other also because they’re polar opposites, the decisions they make that affect her will always be at odds with each other so. yeah that wouldn’t work.
but it just reminded me of every other situation like this where polyamory would otherwise be a super obvious solution. real life scenarios especially.