@alicepallis I'm struggling to find an image of motherhood or femininity that feels authentic and meaningful - and not wishful thinking on the part of 19C men trying to convince their covens to strip more often. From where do you draw your image of femininity, divinely speaking, and do you have any advice on how not to feel like you're borrowing somebody else's imagined version of a woman (if that makes sense???) I'm very interested in getting some perspectives and discussion on thi
Ah, but it is one of my favourite subjects, how delightful. See, finding authenticity in womanhood, in my opinion, hinges on believing people - and deities, - when they say they feel feminine, or like women.
Say, the popular image of the occult feminine is to be approached as a perspective of certain people, rather than a prescription. It stems from their opinion and understanding in an age, one must be fair, where the notion of erotic and bodily liberty in the more, ah, exhibitionist sense was rather revolutionary, a counterbalance to the popular rule. It also stems from a mindset that imagines womanhood in one particular manner, and that is built upon generally having rules to follow.
Now, you, and we all, were born with different natural inclinations, and in an age, soceity, and private situations that shaped us differently. The task of this time is to look towards your own experience with womanhood to understand what it looks like for you, while acknowledging that yours is a tiny segment of what it could potentially be, and is simultaneously with what you experience. Likewise, it is not the job of anyone else to tell you what the goddesses are like. Every source is biased, yourself included, and every source is a reflection of what may have happened or what may have been believed - so let them show themselves.
I do not believe that there is a picture of femininity to be drawn from anywhere because it is not something that exists by nature. Certain behaviours, habits, approaches exist, but whether they are viewed as feminine is a question of perspective. Therefore, speaking generally, while I could say what I mean when I talk about the feminine, and what it has been in my experience and for me, I could not tell anybody what they should believe about it.
Likewise, what I have seen, thought, and done, might well overlap with the masculine experience and notions that exist about men. This is not about being different, carefully separated species. This is about honouring the vastness of possibility.
In fewer words, one returns to the original statement: to form an authentic view of womanhood, one has to meet an individual, themselves or another, and trust them when they say they are a woman.