Remember how Tuesday I was about to be upset about Otter not inviting me over, but I was saved by going on an amazing date with Gecko and Hummingbird and Raven? Well he did text me that night. At like 11:15pm he asked if I wanted to have sleepy sex. I was sleeping and didn’t wake up to the text. I don’t know what I would have done if I had woken up, but it doesn’t matter, because I didn’t.
The next day, he decides that he wants to be friends. Just friends, no benefits. He says if things continue to go well with this girl, he is going to ask her out on Saturday (that would be this past Saturday). I think that means he is going to ask her to be his girlfriend. He has the dating capacity of a middle schooler, so I’m not really sure what he is going to ask her. “Want to be my girlfriend?” “Want to go steady?” “Let’s be monogamous?” IDK how you closed relationship people do these silly things. Otter tells me that he does not want to have sex with anyone else right now because he does not want to make her feel uncomfortable. He says she is making him believe in dating again when he had given up on it. He asks me if I will please be friends with him.
A million things start running through my head… No I will fucking not be friends with you. You’ve known this girl for a week (literally he met her for the first time last Friday), why are you trying to date her? I don’t want to watch you with someone else. You asked for sex less than 24 hours ago. You’ve said you weren’t trying to date anyone, and that you didn’t want to date anyone any time soon. Wtf do you mean given up on dating, you were considering dating that other girl the week before. You keep telling me that you like me. We held hands in the grocery store. Why can’t you just date me, if you have to be dating someone?
I do end up telling him a few of these thoughts. Mostly I shut down. Oddly, he starts responding more. He really wants me to be friends with him, he really likes me as a person, he’s been warning me about this eventuality for a while, etc. I point out that he is inconsistent and confusing. Raven actually gets frustrated enough to start texting him too. Also Raven does not like to see me upset. It doesn’t happen often and I think it freaks him out, because normally I am a very calm person.
So I spend a day or two deciding what to do. Otter keeps texting me. He says that he wants to see where things go with this girl, and if they don’t work out then he’s open to starting things with me again, if I’m still interested.