#gender identity Tumblr posts

  • I finally got around to looking up what demigirl is and ????? It’s me????? Shocker

    #Demigender#demigirl #it’s about fuckin time #lgbtq#gender identity#self discovery #can y’all believe I’m crying??
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  • So I cut my hair a few weeks ago, from super long to about…….shoulder length-ish?? And today my mum confessed that she doesn’t like it because “it makes me look like someone who is confused about their gender”

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    WHY ARE (CERTAIN) MEMBERS OF THE OLDER GENERATION LIKE THIS?!?!

    Androgyny wasn’t necessarily what I was going for, but I definitely feel more like myself now I’ve gotten rid of my long, “girly” hair.

    It’s just hard when your parents insist on viewing you as the person they raised, rather than the person you’ve actually become.

    I’M NOT YOUR LITTLE GIRL ANYMORE, MUM!!!

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  • Sexologist John Money introduced the terminological distinction between biological sex and gender as a role in 1955. Before his work, it was uncommon to use the word gender to refer to anything but grammatical categories. For example, in a bibliography of 12,000 references on marriage and family from 1900–1964, the term gender does not even emerge once. (analysis of more than 30 million academic article titles from 1945–2001 showed that the uses of the term “gender”, were much rarer than uses of “sex”, was often used as a grammatical category early in this period. By the end of this period, uses of “gender” outnumbered uses of “sex” in the social sciences, arts, and humanities. It was in the 1970s that feminist scholars adopted the term gender as way of distinguishing “socially constructed” aspects of male–female differences (gender) from “biologically determined” aspects (sex)).

    Recent academic studies have criticized Money’s work in many respects, particularly in regard to his involvement with the involuntary sex-reassignment of the child David Reimer, his forcing this child and his brother to simulate sex acts which Money photographed and the adult suicides of both brothers.

    In 1966, a botched circumcision left eight-month-old Reimer without a penis. Money persuaded the baby’s parents that sex reassignment surgery would be in Reimer’s best interest. At the age of 22 months, Reimer underwent an orchiectomy, in which his testicles were surgically removed. He was reassigned to be raised as female and given the name Brenda. Money further recommended hormone treatment, to which the parents agreed. Money then recommended a surgical procedure to create an artificial vagina, which the parents refused. Money published a number of papers reporting the reassignment as successful. 

    During subsequent appointments with Reimer and Reimer’s twin brother Brian, Money forced the two to rehearse sexual acts, with David playing the bottom role as his brother “[pressed] his crotch against” David’s buttocks. Money also forced the two children to strip for “genital inspections”, occasionally taking photos. Money justified these acts by claiming that “childhood ‘sexual rehearsal play’” was important for a “healthy adult gender identity”.

    For several years, Money reported on Reimer’s progress as the “John/Joan case”, describing apparently successful female gender development and using this case to support the feasibility of sex reassignment and surgical reconstruction even in non-intersex cases. Notes by a former student at Money’s laboratory state that, during the yearly follow-up visits, Reimer’s parents routinely lied to staff about the success of the procedure. Reimer’s twin brother, Brian, later developed schizophrenia.

    David Reimer’s case came to international attention in 1997 when he told his story to Milton Diamond, an academic sexologist, who persuaded Reimer to allow him to report the outcome in order to dissuade physicians from treating other infants similarly. Soon after, Reimer went public with his story, and John Colapinto published a widely disseminated and influential account in Rolling Stone magazine in December 1997.

    On July 1, 2002, Brian was found dead from an overdose of antidepressants. On May 4, 2004, after suffering years of severe depression, financial instability, and marital troubles, David committed suicide by shooting himself in the head with a sawed-off shotgun at the age of 38. Reimer’s parents have stated that Money’s methodology was responsible for the deaths of both of their sons. […]

    John Money was critical in debates on chronophilias, especially pedophilia. He stated that both sexual researchers and the public do not make distinctions between affectional pedophilia and sadistic pedophilia. Money asserted that affectional pedophilia was about love and not sex.

    If I were to see the case of a boy aged ten or eleven who’s intensely erotically attracted toward a man in his twenties or thirties, if the relationship is totally mutual, and the bonding is genuinely totally mutual … then I would not call it pathological in any way.

    Money held the view that affectional pedophilia is caused by a surplus of parental love that became erotic, and is not a behavioral disorder. Rather, he took the position that heterosexuality is another example of a societal and therefore superficial, ideological concept.

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  • sometimes i look at too many queer tiktoks/before-after transition pics/enby related posts and i feel really great and im like yeah bindertestosteronetopsurgeryboyfriendgay and then as soon as i walk out of my room i remember im a closeted trans teen whos faaar from coming out

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  • Sometimes Dhawan!Master wears skirts because fuck you and fuck your narrow ideas of gender.

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  • Made alot of progress on my classwork, so I decided to chill for a bit. Decided to dress up and do my makeup in a masculine way.. Damn do I feel good. It’s a nice day lol

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  • Make an Inside Out 2 about gender identity

    Make an Inside Out 2 about gender identity

    Make an Inside Out 2 about gender identity

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  • Films: *Queer-code villains to teach the kids that Gay And Trans Are Bad™*

    Kid me: *Basically all my favourite characters are villains*

    Me, (nonbinary and bi/pan/whatever): Ah, yes, I’m sure thats totally what they intended intended *nervous laughter*

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  • I sometimes worry if I’m nonbinary/agender or whether I’ve just let the Radfem rhetoric of “male=bad” subconciously chip away at me and leaving me not wanting to be male.

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  • Like? My main connection to womanhood is my attraction to women in a way that really doesn’t feel straight? And then I’m also connected by my lack of firm connection to manhood?

    But also? My main connections to manhood are my attraction to men in a way that doesn’t feel straight and my lack of firm connection to womanhood?

    And then my attraction to nb people feels really fucking gay too?

    And to top that all off I have no idea what pronouns are comfortable anymore because none of them feel right and I just want something to fit

    Why can’t my gender just be FUCK OFF and left at that????

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    I find art very helpful in expressing and exploring my gender identity.

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  • Children are so pure. I very often have a hard time with my sexuality and gender identity because of my very sternly Christian family (I am a Christian but I am not against transgender or homosexual people because I’m supposed to love everyone, and as far as transgender goes there’s more to a person’s identity than genitals) and the people around me who made fun of me for wearing more masculine clothing at one point even if it was purely experimental. 

    Anyways, one day I was at me now ex-stepdad’s house, and their daughter saw me wearing my Pokemon hat and gender-neutral clothing (gray T-shirt and loose jeans).

    The little girl asked me “Are you a boy?”. Of course I didn’t know how to answer. I’ve always felt like a guy who is attracted to other guys and girls,  partially because of the way my mom treated me for being a girl, partially because it’s just how my brain works with certain chemicals I guess, and partially because of my naturally deeper voice and masculine facial-details.

    As was natural for me and because my ex-step dad was there, I told her in an anxious voice, “Nope, born a girl. I get that my closed are a little misleading.” and I let out a very fake laugh.

    I then took off my hat and pulled my hair out of the pony-tail I kept it in so I could tuck it into the back of my hat while I was wearing my hat to make my hair look shorter when I wasn’t around my family members. 

    You wanna know what that little girl said? She basically summarized my life in front of my family compared to who I was to strangers and social media.

    “Without your hat, you’re a girl!” Keep in mind this child was like 5 years old. She then climbed up onto the back of the couch, tore my hat out of my hand, put it back on my head backwards, tucked my hair into the back of my shirt, and fixed my collar like she had seen my little brother do moments ago because he was wearing what he considered ‘formal’ clothes to my ex-step dad’s house since it was our first time going.

    She sat back, smiling widely. “And with your hat on, you’re a boy!” I just smiled, shrugging her off and and messing up her hair as if I thought it was all a big joke and she didn’t know any better because I didn’t want her mom to get mad at me for ‘confusing’ her even if she’s the one who said everything and I was just sitting there.

    On the inside I wanted to cry because that was so freaking true and I still wear that mask to this day. I can make myself act girly and such easily because I’ve been conditioned to be that way, but I can’t look in the mirror without frowning.

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    Just to reiterate to everyone, I won’t be responding to asks. I do read them though so thank you to everyone that sends them. If you want a reply then DM me 😊

    Other than that, it’s good to be back - at least for now anyway 😉😂

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    From “Secrets of a Broken Heart” by Lee Martens

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  • My mom seems to (want to?) believe that they is no different than you is; depending how many people are being referred to through the pronoun you have to conjugate your linked verb to show the number. She was having it so hard I didn’t hesitate to give her reassurance Merriam-Webster is clear that they is they no matter the number. She learned grammar linked to that pronoun a gazillion years ago so she shouldn’t feel she needs to adapt anything according to number. As it is, I’ve sent an article that was in the Globe a while ago to her as an attempt to help her relax. Sure hope and pray it has some kind of positive effect since it’s half-annoying hearing her saying “They is…” or anything else to that effect. Sorry Ma. Number is no different than gender identity and/or sex; it doesn’t alter grammar for a second. Do we conjugate verbs differently according to if people are women, genderqueer/androgynous and/or men? No, of course we don’t. People are people, may that receive proper recognition.

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    My binder came in!!!

    It’s been 11 years since I first learned the word to describe my gender, and I only just bought my first binder. It’s never too late to start feeling comfortable in your own body 😊


    This makes me unbelievably happy despite how horrible everything is in the world.

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