Crazy that people say things like “Snape had friends at Hogwarts” “Draco’s parents adored him” even “Ron was never the disfavored child” as criticisms, of Snape, Malfoy, Ron, whoever; of their choices. When that’s the POINT. Snape found a bizarre appreciation among wannabe DEs that he didn’t experience anywhere else; Draco’s parents, like most parents, loved their son, and, like most parents, instilled their values in him from childhood; he loved and respected them and wanted to follow in their footsteps. Ron doesn’t stick out among his siblings, not for bad or for good; that lack in singularity burns at him in a trio with a Chosen Hero and a genius. You aren’t just shaped by bad experiences, by hate and pain. You’re just as vulnerable to love, and appreciation, and all that you associate with positive emotion. And shaped most of all by the mundane, the day-to-day, what’s so normal to you, you don’t even see it.