To heal is not to cease to feel pain. It is to trust the wisdom of the moment (even if it is not apparent) and open yourself to the blessings which are a product of the circumstances. Potential for clarity is locked away within you, hardwired into your nature.
You cannot know yourself truly without the experience you are facing. Even if the circumstances seem desperate, this moment is best for everyone connected to it.
He knows your pain, but He offers you the chance to grow into your primordial excellence. Growing pains we might say. Do not fight the pain. Rather, watch it, and find the knowledge deep down inside you that this is what He has willed.
When you find that place, you will experience peace. Perhaps the suffering will not disappear forever, but it will be eased. And incrementally, you will relocate your home to that bastion of peace within and your universe will be transformed.