I’ve ranted here before about a cousin I worry about (constantly treated like shit, parents put her down all the time for no reason because it’s the only way they know how to lift up the other sibling, reactive, manipulative and controlling parents) and a few kind people here offered the advice of asking for her phone number and messaging her light-hearted things and establishing a connection. Found out yesterday their mother literally reads all their messages, and if I were to send one thing to the cousin I’m worried about the mother would get pissed and start shit with the rest of my family. But holy shit, reading their messages? They’re teenagers!! I think back and my saving grace when I was their age was having that basic freedom and space for privacy.
AND!!!!! Guess who isn’t getting dental work that she needs because her parents (who go away on weekend trips all the time) ‘don’t have enough money’ to have it done because the other sibling is getting the same dental work done no problem? :))))
It’s so bittersweet, this cousin is seriously the human version of the rose that sprouts from a crack in the concrete, she is so sweet and smart and kind, it’s an absolute marvel given the household she’s in and the way she’s treated.