For what its worth, I haven’t dated much in my life. Maybe 2-3 people and that includes my adult life. I didn’t start dating until I was damn near 22. It was never a focus of mine at younger ages though. However, I was always under the impression that the key to a happy life involved being in a happy relationship while working towards my other goals in life, having a partner to be there for me when it gets hard and I do the same for her.
Thank goodness I grew up and left those ideologies behind. I’ve been single for all of 2020. At first, I dreaded it. I hated the feelings that came with it, the depression, the wondering what they’re doing thoughts, the whole draining process of putting your life on hold, feeling as if I had to hurry and meet someone and jump right back into another relationship (still not easy for me). I’m glad I can recognize that, yes being single does have its moment where it’s lonely, you crave someone’s touch, attention, their smiles but I also recognize I don’t care to date.
If I meet someone and we happen to form a bond that’s great, however, this time to myself has provided me with the opportunity to explore myself and learn more about who I am on the inside. It revealed to me what makes me happy, what makes me tick, my likes/dislikes, my wants, my real dreams and goals.
Being single isn’t a punishment or bad thing at all. Infact, its providing me with the opportunity to finally do what’s best for me without worrying about how it will impact someone’s life.