I don’t think men understand how uncomfortable yearly gynecological exams can be. Your naked on a table under a paper gown and paper blanket before thr doctor comes in and asks you a series of questions, one of which will always be about birth control. Do you want it, are you on it, do you need a new rx, etc… The level of sensitivity and gentleness depends on the doctor, some are all science, some are compassionate, and others act like they don’t want to be there.
Anyways, next they lie you down and do a breast exam which feels like a 15lb cat stepping on your breasts. After this, they slide you down the table, have you spread your legs and insert a speculum into you, which is at the very least uncomfortable. To this day, the least painful one I’ve experienced had me fighting myself not to gasp or jerk my leg. If all goes well then that is it. They read you your lab results in summary and ask if you have any questions.
I like my current doctor, she’s quite gentle and her office is not a nightmare of a wait, but the day after the exam I always have a blood clot or two and THIS is what men don’t realize. These exams are embarrassing, painful, and awkward. (God, who isn’t uncomfortable discussing their sex life and history with anyone who is not your partner or a close friend?)
Added onto this, there is the price. I’ve had doctors charge $400 for a regular annual checkup. Crazy right?
I wish men wouldn’t shy away from such discussions about periods or these doctor’s visits.
YOU ARE LITERALLY INSIDE US, HOW IS ANY OF THIS AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION?
If I we tell you we are on our period, that is us saying some or all of these things:
-I’m not in the mood for sex
- I hurt from cramping
-Mentally I am very low and would like some reassuring affection
-I am not pregnant
-In about 2 weeks, I will be fertile again
-If you want to do something nice for me, you will likely get double points for doing it
-I’m emotional and will probably cry easily
-I might be very irritiable
-I might want some space
It’s really not that hard to not be weird about it.
If you want to be inside of me, you need to not make me feel ashamed, embarrassed, or like I can’t discuss my feminine bodily functions with you.
That is all, thanks for reading.