While we are all just stuck home, I decided to compile a bunch of ideas what to do:
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It was one week before that I was watching Friends, and I couldn’t stop thinking how beautiful it would be if the term of friendship was now like those times…It is said that our generation is based on growth and development which is not bad, though what about humans and relationships? Are they way to oldfashioned for anyone to care for? Why did people stopped trying? Where did all these calls, gatherings, fun gossips, cool parties, innocent love affairs and caring went at? Can we find our soulmates in this world? Is there such a thing? Can we continue like that?
Living in quarantine is hard, especially for a professional overthinker like me. One day of the previous week that I referred to, I had a bad anxiety attack. There was a huge load of feelings and thoughts that would not let me breathe. It was scary. I really needed someone to talk to but nowadays I don’t feel anyone really close, that I could call. Wait, I can’t even call, I forgot about it. Calling someone on their phone nowadays is weird. I ended up texting with some people. One of them suggested me going on videocalls with my friends. I got my shit together and the next night I videocalled some friends. Only a few answered. What a terrible feeling to be young and act like you are tired of life. I didn’t get mad of course that would be silly of me, you never know nowadays what someone might be going through, you never know cause you never actually talk, or they/you never really listen.
People don’t treat others like possible friends nowadays, they lack the beauty of fantasy, energy, belief, values and passion. People are swiping right to get to know someone, and left to reject a human being. People are asking for nudes, they care about numbers,they text you but when they see you in real life they pretend they never saw you. People are afraid of other people now, if you act friendly you are cosidered weird or they feel like you have bad intentions. People are making friendships or relationships with no care if that lasts. People are acting more selfish now and thats why I cry everytime I see a rare good action. People are not people anymore, we live in a wild soul jungle.
How did we end up like that? I don’t want to complain about technology and development, it was something that humanity had been trying since the begining of it’s own being, but for sure it has a huge impact on the situation. It might be the materialism, what influencers are promoting, there’s not always one to blame, but whoever’s idea it was to turn the world into such an amazing developed world with passive relationships, is doing well untill now.
Human beings have many goals and dreams , but there’s one that we all share even when some do not admit it. We all want to love and be loved. We are social beings. We are just too afraid or arrogant today that we cover up a beautiful side of us. We like to think there is a person for us out there that will be our soulmate. What a terrible idea. I remember Carrie said << I like to think that we have more than one soulmate.>>. I couldn’t agree more. People come and go. They say the ones who are still in your life are the real ones. No, there are many who left and touched your hurt, your being, there are some who left and you were thankful for but many of those who left are a part of you, you are a part of them. Not everyone who left was a bad person, sometimes it was human nature or how things were forced. Let time pass for both sides to heal and try again.If you fail remember that there are many people who will frustrate you or make you sad\mad, not everyone should live up to your expectations. Not everyone can match with everyone.
I really feel nolstagic about how old friendships appeared, but I know I am not the only one. We all secretely do thus after you are done reading this blog post, and if you are one like me, call a friend of yours, get outside with no real plans ( when quarantine is over), go to their house and play boardgames, keep your phone off while enjoying a meal with them or your familly, go play video games together or book a crazy trip. Listen to them when they are talking to you, open up, be friendly, form your boundaries and explore your hobbies, to be a fun loving person and to be able to create a good vibe around you, you must firstly be alive and love yourself. You are not oldfashioned because you have some values and imagimation. After all who said that being oldfashioned is something fully bad?
In conclusion, times have changed, the term of friendship and “I am having fun” are completely different, but in reality we all are looking for a friend like Carrie, Chandler, even mean girls. A friend like Elle Woods,or a novel character.If you like how people were then, bring that back make the change, don’t be afraid to stand out, if you need something to change if you don’t like a situation don’t complain about it, be the one who will change to make others too. I swear you will find the ones you truly match with, you will lose them and get them again or meet new ones. Nothing is stable because you are not stable too.As for worrying about finding your soulmate-s, whatever you believe in, relax. You don’t need to search about people, it’s really how you drive your life, the decisions you make and how you make known what you are asking for, who you are. Everytime of your life there are going to be different people next to you because you change or because of the situations. When you find your soulmate-s, you will know, don’t search thoough, it’s like searching for a pair of ugly Chanel earings, you will never find one.
your dailly thinker…