Dating me is like dating someone who lives his life fully surrendered to the Lord 24/7, literally. And I’ve never been with anyone the way I am now so I’m interested in how that’s going to work - well - if she’s on the same page as I am.
I’m the kind of guy that will tell his gf or friend when I know there’s idolatry in our relationship and aren’t keeping Jesus as our main priority. So to date me you’d have to be okay with my honesty when it comes to faith.
In order for a husband to love his wife well and have a successful marriage he should be the kind of man to remind his wife if necessary that Jesus is her everything and to never put him before the Lord. If you find a man like that, you found a gem!
“He should make you feel beautiful by the way he looks at you. You should feel like you’re the one.”
My fianceè and I made a good step together today, we went to our local church, and put in our application so that hopefully, we can be married in the church that my parents and grandparents were married in!
We visited said church today, and the fact that it was open made the visit so much better, my lovely lady still hadn’t seen the inside of it, it was nice to see it so peaceful, we were the only two there, and I haven’t told her this yet (sorry darling!), but I could see the wedding right there, all the people we want there, her dress, me really, really trying not to fall apart!
Seeing the church with my fianceè made me realise that she is my future, whatever we do, see, live through, I want to be there by her side through all of it. And I’m going to be soppy and try and write up some of our big moments like this, because our future means a lot to me, and I love the directions we could go!
For now, we have a date.
Mr Samuel and Mrs Gabrielle Jones.
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The world’s view of marriage is, “I need you to make me who I am.” God’s view is, “two beings enjoying being one being.”
A lot of times we think marriage is “finally someone who’s going to pay me for my love,” and it’s never that. It’s, “finally, God’s given me a spouse to be one with.”
As a good and true Enneagram 5w4, MB INT/FJ, and general type A kind of gal, I love planning things and organising things. There’s a reason why I am the designated trip planner for my family — I delight in the details and scouring through information online and coordinating things. Add to this that I have a swift and tasteful eye for aesthetics and presentation (my favourite part about baking), and I am basically a one-stop event planner… and I’m struggling to not plan my wedding.
Andrew and I aren’t officially engaged. So, you know, there’s that. The main sticking point, though, is that I can talk to my friends about how we want to get married and what I’d like for a wedding, but I can’t really because we aren’t formally engaged. So it’s a lot of “this is super on the down low, but Andrew and I want to get married within a calendar year.” Like, I’m excited, so I want to talk about it and talk through things, but it’s very limited in the scope of what I can or can’t say because of the lack of formal engagement.
I’ve looked through dozens of venues and crunched all the numbers, laid out the order of service, compiled a short list of the people we’d want at our wedding, looked at wedding band sets, consulted with my best friend about the wedding dress she’ll make me, etc., etc. I basically know exactly how I want things and how I want to do those things, but my hands are tied until Andrew can talk to my parents and actually put a ring on it. I have all of my ducks lined up in a row but no shotgun with which to shoot them.
I’m not a patient person. If I want to get something done, I make it get done. (Cue the story about how Andrew and I started going out: we had math class together, like proper nerds, and one Monday morning in late April, I was clobbered over the head with the realisation that there was this very nice, smart, handsome guy in my math class who conveniently happened to be single. So I laid in wait until the Friday of that week and, with little ceremony, messaged Andrew on Facebook to say that I thought he was intriguing and that we should hang out. The rest is history, though I will say that I think it’s awfully funny how I didn’t see it as an actual date, whereas Andrew did.) So this funny waiting period — waiting to get engaged, waiting to shoot my ducks, waiting even to be married — is a heavy strain on my shallow reserves of patience. Which, of course, being a sensibly self-aware sort of person, I realise is good for me as I’m forced to grow in abiding where I am and not running around like a madwoman. As much as I love to run around, it’s also exhausting, and I’m remembering to recognise that every now and then. I never liked the tortoise, but I think I’d settle for something like ferret — slower than the hare, faster than the tortoise. I do believe in the long and steadfast pursuit things, especially people — especially marriage — so I suppose it won’t ultimately kill me if I make myself slow down a little.
Speaking of pursuit, Andrew and I have continued our slow attempts at puzzling through what vocation avec marriage means (”avec” being French for with in the sense of alongside). Between my imminent graduation, existential dread, my university, and facing the prospect of marriage, my ideas about what vocation is are rapidly changing and expanding, as in contact metamorphism (apparently my geology class is bleeding into my English seminar class which has itself been bled into by this blog…). Something that Andrew has always been appreciatively clear about is that I am free to pursue what I want to pursue and that I shouldn’t feel like I’m being held back in any way because of his being in a PhD program at MSU. And I don’t think I do. I mean, yeah, I’d like to pursue getting my MSI eventually and living someplace interesting eventually (i.e., not the midwest) and other such sundry things. But I’m more interested in pursuing our relationship and investing in its health and strength for both the short term and the long term. I don’t need to go straight into a MSI program — I don’t even know if I need to apply to grad school at all — and that sort of thing can certainly wait until a better time and place. But for now, if I’m somehow being called into marriage, in addition to everything else, I want to give it my utmost because, needless to say, marriage is kind of a big deal and I want to do it (i.e., Andrew) justice.
I still don’t like waiting; I still don’t like being unable to launch into action as I see fit. But, as I’ve said time and time again, this isn’t something I can afford to be petulant and impatient about. So I’ll sit here and fiddle around with my hands (I’m very good at twirling pens through my fingers; maybe it’s time for me to learn how to roll a coin across my knuckles) while keeping a watchful eye on the ducks.
A Christian man can only love his wife to the extent in which he loves the Lord. If he loves the Lord, he will keep His word and His word promises love towards his wife always.
The ideal is to be the kind of husband who’s wife doesn’t have to worry about him desiring someone else other than her because of how faithfully in love he is with the Lord.
I’m an X-ray crystallographer irl
My husband has been getting video games for him to play based on what storylines he thinks I would find interesting because he enjoys when I watch him and give commentary and I’m just ❤️😍❤️
ΤΑ ΓΡΑΦΕΙΑ ΣΥΝΟΙΚΕΣΙΩΝ ΠΑΠΠΑΣ ΣΤΗΝ «ΠΡΩΤΗ ΓΡΑΜΜΗ» - ΜΟΔΑ ΞΑΝΑ ΤΑ ΣΥΝΟΙΚΕΣΙΑ
Remembering why you said yes can soften you heart on those days when things feel a little hard.
Remembering who you were in the beginning can reconnect you with the wife you wanted to be then and check in to see if you’re still focused on being her now.
Remembering that happiness is something you create and feelings of love came from actions, time spent preparing for each other, looking forward to seeing each other, and not taking each other for granted.
Remembering that when you said yes you chose him and he chose you and that each day you chose each other over and over again.
Remembering where you started can help you appreciate how much you have grown, matured, and developed with your life and marriage experience.
May Allah bless you with new happy moments that become key moments you look back on a decade from now. <3
Via Wives of Jannah
There is a myth that great sex has to be spontaneous. The problem with this is that for all those exhausted tired couples who just want to sleep when their head hits the pillow or sleep in as long as they can - spontaneous isn’t happening! When it does, fantastic. If you are feeling like your relationship is starved for intimacy, it may be time to set aside time in your schedule.
People balk at this idea, and yet, completely embrace date nights insisting how important it is for couples to go out alone and connect with each other.
Any busy couple knows that there is no good time for a date night, especially if you have kids. There is also no good or perfect time to lost a little sleep to be with your spouse.
But the loss of intimacy can also lead to the loss of near loss of the relationship. Sex is what makes a marriage - a marriage!
I don’t believe that a couple has to try to follow a recommended number of times to be together. Everyone is different with different challenges and needs. What I am recommending is making sexual intimacy a priority in your life.
And to the wives here - remember sex is NOT about your man. It’s not designed just for him. It’s for you too. If you don’t enjoy the before, during, and after of intimacy, it’s time to have a discussion with your husband and find ways to make it about you!
Via Wives of Jannah