hm. nb stuff about names under the cut
had a conversation with the nb gang about names and it was interesting to hear how different it is with people. ive gone by tele for a long time, most of my life and i like my name. its unique and ethnic and gender neutral and also my given name. i didnt pick a new name when i realised i was nonbinary. i went by h*rriet for a short time in primary school and that was fine, whatever. it was before i knew i was nonbinary and i was well liked in school so it didnt matter to me but any other time i introduce myself as tele when i have the chance. i just like it better. it gets mispronounced a lot but its worth the effort. and i was talking to aiden and he said a name is a gift, really, given to you by your parents and i never thought about that. they got a new name when they came to north america cause white people cant pronounce chinese names but it didnt mean anything other than we dont want you to get bullied in school. we talked about what your name means and i told everyone what my name(s) mean and it brought to mind that my parents were intentional with the names they gave me. it was a gift. they picked it out to mean something. culturally, and personally. i want to change the names on my id, well, i want to drop one. but i thought about it some more and it feels like some kind of betrayal to. they gave me a name after some white woman that means a lot to them. its. weird. i barely know her and shes kind of cold. nice enough but i literally just dont know her. but still removing that name feels like it would be a slap in the face to them, her but my parents mostly. but youre allowed to reject and not like gifts if they’re not to your taste.