#nesting partners Tumblr posts

  • badhombre647
    08.04.2021 - 1 week ago

    Reason #8394949277 b and I are meant to be together.

    Me in the shower loudly “free styling” depression song: iiiiiii hate eeEeeeAAveryyYYyyYyythiiiiiIiINnnngGgg 🎶

    b from the other room: meEeeEeeeEe tOooOoooOoo 🎶

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  • badhombre647
    02.04.2021 - 2 weeks ago

    My Dearest Crow Boy,

    I miss you. I need you now more than ever. I’m so tired, my love. I’m grateful for the strong presence of your spirit today. Please stay with me always.

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  • badhombre647
    22.03.2021 - 3 weeks ago

    I blog a lot about the deep, dark pit that is left of my heart after the past year, but I don’t talk enough about the ways my nesting partner has supported me though it. What we’ve been through in the last year together was either going to rip us apart, or cement us together. I’m grateful it was the latter. We lost our mutual nesting partner to suicide almost a year ago. This rocked our world, and our community. They had a front row seat to the experience of three partners breaking up with me within a few months of each other. They saw me experience primal panic for the first time with a now former partner. Something that I had only experienced with them previously.

    They’ve stood behind me through it. Seeing me suffer in these ways has cast me in a whole new light in their eyes. One they find me even more beautiful in. They renewed their vow to never again be careless with my heart.

    Our relationship is about more than meeting each other’s needs. Neither of us have the ability to do that fully for each other. Our relationship is about weathering the storms together. It’s about supporting each other while we grow as individuals. It’s about holding space for each other to fall apart. Sometimes over and over again. It’s about preserving the core of this family we built together.

    A year and a half ago, I wasn’t sure we’d make it. Now I cannot imagine anything could break us apart.

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  • badhombre647
    20.03.2021 - 4 weeks ago

    Mental illness and cancer scares have my head spinning today. I feel so alone and lost. I feel like a burden on my nesting partner. My soul is tired.

    #relationship anarchy#polyamory#relationships#nesting partners#breakups#mental health#mental illness#depression#bipolar II #I miss her #fuck cancer #I want to be held but also don’t want to be touched #being crazy is confusing
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  • mylittlepoly-family
    23.03.2018 - 3 years ago

    On living with partner(s)

    Remember, when you live together with a partner, you're not just partners. You're also friends, and you're also roommates. Don't just assume that because you are partners, you have certain privileges, or don't have others. Would you expect your roommate to do your laundry? Would you expect your roommate to listen to you vent about your problems day in and day out? Would you be lax on a roommate who fell behind on rent? Would you be ok with a roommate who was extremely loud every time you were trying to sleep? Probably not for any of those (and others). Sometimes partners that live together take these things for granted, and that's not good. I recommend starting with the idea that you are roommates (especially if you share a bedroom)- and deciding what appropriate boundaries and rules are (eg. We each do our own dishes and laundry. We get home before 10pm on work nights or let each other know if that won't happen). Then, make some compromises (I'll do laundry if you do dishes; Tuesdays you have date night so I won't expect you home by 10pm etc.) if you feel like it's right for you as partners. Keep that roommate list somewhere though. IF you ever break up (which sucks, but can happen), that first list can be really beneficial. It can ALSO help if you want to renavigate what living together looks like (if one of you gets a partner and you spend 3 nights a week with them or something). Also - I recommend having a small bit of "extra" space - a futon or something similar in a quiet place. Sometimes you might need to get away, sometimes you might know you have work at 6am and your partner won't get in til 3am, and so sleeping on the couch isn't a punishment, it's just a courtesy.

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  • allergyalien
    24.03.2021 - 3 weeks ago

    Watching futurama, eating my allergy friendly cheesy ramen, and my partners staying with me until I fall asleep to make sure I'm okay

    #we're nesting partners #together #have separate rooms FINALLY though #we love each other #we're just both neuroAtypicals and polyamorous and separate rooms are ideal for us
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  • badhombre647
    09.03.2021 - 1 mont ago

    My phone brought this up as the memory of the day. This day still makes me smile to think about. On the left is T, me in the middle, b on the right. This photo was taken 5 years ago with the man we were on our first public polyamorous date with. All three of us showing PDA. Mutual swoons. Walking around the lake holding hands with each of us having turns for being in the middle.

    In this photo, we had just taken off our shoes, and were splashing around in the lake. Talking about what an experience this day was, and how free we felt. At this time, b and I were in a hierarchical polyamorous relationship, and mostly dated bi men as a couple. A couple women too.

    We met T at a sex store while we were there with a mutual friend/lover. He was the manager, and we all flirted with him at check out. He shamelessly flirted back. I wrote down our numbers, and slid the paper to him with a smile before we left. He said he couldn’t wait to call.

    Although what we were doing was technically unicorn hunting, our experiences with T were part of the foundation of the beautiful relationship anarchists we’ve become. I’m grateful for the moments we had with him, in and out of the bedroom. I’m happy to have this photo as a reminder of the first time I felt freedom publicly as a non-monogamous person. I’m glad to still be excited to see each other when we bump into him at events or out and about.

    What a great memory.

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  • badhombre647
    14.02.2021 - 2 monts ago

    Polyam Love Week date #3. 3 rounds of my favorite board game with my Polyam Family! Our family dynamic is really wonderful. We all grew together organically. J and K are married, b and I are married, K and b are long term partners, J and I are engaged (for a commitment ceremony/hand fasting), and K and I have a beatiful platonically intimate connection. We have been dubbed the Fantastic Four! They are my foundation, family, party partners, and best friends.

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  • badhombre647
    08.02.2021 - 2 monts ago

    My nesting partner is asexual, but still likes me to proposition them sometimes. Conversation about what feels comfortable can feel strange for them, so this is how I do it!

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