Woke up before my alarm (the late one😅) and my mind took off about the Simu situation before I could go back to sleep, so here's another horrible take on the situation/vent. Prepare to hate me.
I am tired. I am a christian. I am a fangirl that catches feelings and emotional sentimentality quickly. I am tired of cancelling people.
It's kinda sick right, how you don't even have to be a hardcore fan of somebody or something. You can just want to vibe and believe most people are imperfect, but decent enough that you can enjoy them. But in one drop of a pen, it can go from that to you being called to be some righter of wrongs and turn your positive emotions into strongly negative ones. And suddenly you're the problem if you haven't decided you want all proof or positivity about that person wiped from the face of the earth forever.
How does basic human connection and enjoyment of life not become a trap? How are we supposed to function on this earth as human beings without having to feel everyone is a potential Satan spawn sent to spread darkness?
How can we bring everyone to God's good will and treat every sinner (aka person that exists) like they're not too far gone and they can come back from having racist, misogynistic, etc views to being a kinder better person? How can anybody when the world will always tell you nobody can unlearn, nobody gets a second chance?! You must disassociate, keep record of everyone's mistakes to hold over them if they ever dare to continue living in anything but utter shame and being relentlessly hated!
Most likely, Simu isn't going to be able to work in this town again for the next 30 years without this following him, no matter if he proves that it's true that he's changed, or starts to change from here on out, or if evidence comes out that it was all made up from the start, or whatever plethora of scenarios could happen after this.
You have to hate Simu Liu now. And... I don't want to.
Not cause it's him specifically, though I do have personal liking of stuff about him before all this. But because I'm tired of seeing people and stirring up negative feelings in my heart towards them. Knowing that they had or have problematic views in life, and having to turn my nose up and hold them accountable. Saying he can "rot in he**" or whatever ill wishes people get for having albeit wrong or harmful thoughts towards others. Like, y'all really say stuff like "Oh you just had a baby? Well, you said something insensitive to a certain community 12 years ago, so I hope your organs shrivel up!" and think that doesn't affect your soul.
I'm tired of cancelling, because people don't use it as constructive criticism to help the problematic person see how their mindset or actions can hurt others, and guide them towards becoming better. People cancel to crush any idea that there was a sliver of good and destroy any chance for them to live a life as a possibly better person. When we're supposed to be graceful, merciful, loving to everyone no matter what they've done to us in the past, present, or future. We're supposed to nurture the good in people and encourage each other away from the bad. That's how you help people change. With kindness and patient unconditional love. Not years of throwing hatred and shame at them if they're spotted smiling in public.
Am I super crazy for thinking "Hey Simu, I see that you had problematic behavior in the past, and may still have them now, but I want to encourage you to grow from that so you can be a better person to represent this character in the future"?
Must I go through all this negative energy and deep tumultuous conflict of the inner workings of cancel culture vs godly redemption and whatever else I just experienced laying awake just to decide whether or not I should still go see Shang Chi and the Legend of the Ten Rings tomorrow like I'd already planned to before all this if only so I won't be confused when the next MCU film comes out?
And do I have to feel like a villain or some type of ignorant enabler of wickedness if I have a few fond thoughts about Simu from before, and I'm rooting for the positivity he took part in representing, and if I think maybe he's in the wrong now, but it's possible that one day in the future he won't be anymore, so why waste my energy giving him a stank face for the next decade, when I could pray that he does become a better person?
All that just so I don't have to hate him and everything he does? Just because I'm too tired to keep my own little version of God's book in my head and apply it to everyone that crosses through the public eye?
Oh, and I'm not defending what Simu said on the reddit. I'm a black woman, so a lot of it was not in my favor. Also I didn't read every sentence, and haven't gotten on Twitter again since last night, so I could be speaking on outdated information. It's just, you don't kick a sinner out of church for having sinned, you pray for them and encourage them. That way they can be forgiven and work towards change. Celebrities have souls, too. I just think it's time to start giving out more grace and love before eternal punishment.
This post is probably ending with you wanting to fill my inbox with disgusted outrage and block me, but I needed to get it off my chest. I don't know if it's because my heart is overwhelmed by learning horrible things about people I've liked for years and I'm trying to stop myself from losing the light in my eyes for my stupid celebrities or what. I told you it's a horrible take. Sorry.