Trash-talk therapy and psychiatry if you must – I’ll grant that there are a ton of problems with both – but don’t try to pretend that they don’t help people. Psych care saves lives, and lots of them. There are numerous people who would be dead or perpetually miserable without it. Those institutions may be deeply problematic, but many people owe their lives to them. Don’t minimize that.
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I’m in a really weird spot right now. I kept telling myself I’ll bounce back from this stronger than ever. I’ll be better physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, etc.
She really did get into my head. She did a pretty damn good job, too. I’ll give her that. And did an exceptionally well job of hiding her opiate addiction. I’m not dumb, but neither is she. She ruthlessly attacked my weaknesses when I was vulnerable. Knowing I was depressed. Throwing love and affection at me, loving bombing me into a short period of time to not give me time to think and even picked on my past with religion to try and get me to believe in destiny again. Faking pains so I’d give her money for “meds” and “paracraneal injections”. It was all pretty solid plan of attack.
But. I told her that her primary mistakes were thinking I’m dumb, because I’m not. She thought I was some sad, depressed broken-hearted guy that just wants love and she was right. But she didn’t realize that I came to terms with my depression a long time ago and I’m not weak. I don’t value happiness; I see it as nothing more than an emotion. I value peace of mind. I mastered my darkness long ago so for her to try to use it against me and throw my flaws in my face was a huge mistake. I know who I am, so when she tried making me doubt myself and accuse me of being something I’m not, I knew something was wrong. “I’m sorry, but I cannot be anything other then what I am.”
I’m over her. I see that it was all a lie. In retrospect the gaslighting, manipulation, wearing out the self-esteem, and attempts at isolating from my brothers (that everyone knows I love more than anything else in the world) was all pretty textbook.
She truly never cared about me. I purposely tried acting like there was a possibility I’d go back to her to see if she would react the way a narcissist would, and she did. She once again tried isolating me, offering me sex, claiming there is something wrong with me and she can help me, acting nice the same way she was in the beginning, etc. Everything a narcissist losing control does. Hit her with the old reverse psychology to see what she was about.
But I’m not yet over the situation. It’s going to take time. I’m not sure how much. What worries me is my nightmares are back and I’ve truly been in a daze for the past few days and can’t even bring myself to fake laugh.
I’ve been diving even more into psychology. It was mostly just Jung, Nietzsche, existentialism, depression, anxiety, etc. before. But I’ve started diving deep into the dark triad of psychology. Narcissism, psychopathy, and, Machiavellianism. This is definitely going to be a huge learning experience for me and will make me so much stronger. But fuck. I’m wondering how big this scar across my chest is going to be.
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King, Warrior, Magician, Lover
rediscovering the archetypes of the mature masculine (Psychology)
Robert L. Moore, Douglas Gillette
ISBN : 9780062506061
Éditeur : HarperCollins Publishers (16/08/1991)
“The bestselling, widely heralded, Jungian introduction to the psychological foundation of a mature, authentic, and revitalized masculinity.
Redefining age-old concepts of masculinity, Jungian analysts Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette make the argument that mature masculinity is not abusive or domineering, but generative, creative, and empowering of the self and others. Moore and Gillette clearly define the four mature male archetypes that stand out through myth and literature across history: the king (the energy of just and creative ordering), the warrior (the energy of aggressive but nonviolent action), the magician (the energy of initiation and transformation), and the lover (the energy that connects one to others and the world), as well as the four immature patterns that interfere with masculine potential (divine child, oedipal child, trickster and hero). King, Warrior, Magician, Lover is an exploratory journey that will help men and women reimagine and deepen their understanding of the masculine psyche.”
Well, that book turned out to be a bigger surprise than I thought. I’m reviewing this one for mainly two reasons: first and foremost, because I came upon this work at a time when I was trying to make sense of what I had already discovered … but also, to a very unexpected use of the knowledge contained in these pages.
So, back at the late 2015, I kinda hit a brick wall that sent my whole universe crashing down (again). This sent me on a downward spiral that made 2016 and 2017, a living hell. Of course, as soon as I started to recognize the signs, I went to get help. Along this, a particularity in my behaviour in a time of crisis (a quirk of personality if you like) is to go into overdrive and collect a maximum of data as I’m trying to understand the problem (so I can solve it). As of result, it brings me to read stuff I would never have considerate in my fields of interests.
I discovered that publication through a series of YouTube videos describing those archetypes and having this book in reference. At that point in time, I was becoming ever more frustrated by apparent lack of progress despite everything I had accomplished so far. I was feeling like a mechanic who had fixed and checked every part of a car and yet could still not make it work. Thus, when I watched those videos, I was quite intrigued by the fact that one of them, described the conditions, the environment in which I was raised … and the resulting consequences. My curiosity activated, I went and got the book.
Now, before I go any further, I’d like to point out that this is NOT a self-help book or one of those “X” steps to make you feel better. What that book did was to give me an overview of the system and the way it work in its entirety. It made me understand that what I was considering as flaws of characters to be cast out, were in fact imbalances that needed only some gentle corrections (a bit more of this … a little less of that).
Another point to emphasize, this work is in no way sexist. These masculine characteristics studied here are also found in women. The theme of masculinity is in fact alluding to one of the aspects of duality (Ying / yang) that dwell within each of us.
Reading that book enable me to resume my journey toward a sunnier tomorrow (it is a never-ending road after all).
Note: from pages 63 to 70, you’ll have the textual description of a certain person in charge of a current event (’nuff said).
This brings me to the second part of my review: the unexpected use of this knowledge … in the internal worldbuilding of your characters.
As I mentioned, I was surprised in the way this book can help in creating characters that will feel more “organic” in their behaviours. Although there are numerous books, documentation and video advising you on how to build your protagonist or what kind of trap to avoid during your creation; very few of them put the stress on the emotional motivations behind the behaviour … which often lead to 1 or 2 dimensional characters.
Another flaw in creating your personages, which most beginner writers suffer (I included), is the over idealization of their hero … mostly because we have a tendency to project our ideals onto our creations. Which often end up to the “perfect” hero … he/she looks good, true, but is quite empty. This book could help you fill up the gap.
A good example to illustrate my point is the character of Jean-Luc Picard of Star Trek: TNG (I chose him because he seemed to be at the forefront of the discussions recently). Throughout the sitcom and films, Jean-Luc Picard represent the “King” archetype (obviously because he is the Captain of the Enterprise). But as we move through the seri, episode by episode, we realize that the second trait of personality displayed by the captain is the magician as he coaches and advises the different members under his leadership. This was also demonstrated numerous times through his mastery on multiple diplomatic situations. We also learn that his warrior archetype was seriously kept in check after the accident that got him stabbed in the heart (he became more cautious). Finally, his greatest imbalance where at the level of his lover’s side: he was uncomfortable in the presence of children and had a very hard time to admit his love for Beverley Crusher out of loyalty for his late friend. You can repeat this process with every protagonist or antagonist you want.
In conclusion, I got that book to help me make sense of many things in my life and ended up with a more comprehensive way in creating characters and personages … both mature and immature … positive or negative … not bad.
Which is why I recommend it.
Have a nice read.
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Online school is harder than it looks. I miss going to lecture, campus, my friends and these guys. I know it’s for the best but I really am bummed about graduation. 😕
Akira the Don - “Strength” (feat. Jordan B. Peterson)
Be courageous, not stupid, but strong. You can do it!
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To be mad, insane, is just to be outside the norm, madness is a label assigned to those who think ‘differently’ by those who lack thought. Alternative thought can lead a person down infinite roads; can cause both revelations and breakdowns, yet the ‘thoughts’ of the normal only lead to one place: nothing, the empty land void of anything meaningful. It may seem nihilistic at first, but bear with me, what happens when you die? Everything you felt, everything you achieved vanishes as if it never existed at all, if there is no longer anyone to perceive your existence did you even exist at all? Sure, some of you may find happiness, feel of sense of satisfaction when you come to face death one day, but did you really ever accomplish anything? Most likely, you haven’t. The truth is most probably, that you did nothing but work to breathe and breathe to work; perhaps you had a few moments where you enjoyed some good times with friends and family, but that doesn’t change the path you’re on, doesn’t mean you aren’t just working for someone else so that they can work for someone else so that good and lucky workers like yourself can continue breathing. Now think, when did that behavior start, when did you fall into this desperate cycle? It wasn’t when you were born was it? No, it started much later than that. For most, it started with school, others fell the moment they were old enough to hold a plate, for some extra unlucky people it started when the world they thought they knew was violently shattered before their very eyes. “Oh, you got fired? Welcome to the real world.”
What about any of that seems normal? All of it. How much of that should be? Absolutely none of it. You can agree with me on that, can agree on ‘should be’s, but the moment someone says “it can be, the world can be better, life is capable of being better” you start shaking your head. You view progress as impossibilities, you think of them as dreams, fantasies that can’t come true. Be satisfied with how things are, force yourself to nod and smile, stay complacent, don’t rebel. It all comes down to societal norms, each thought and action you make decided by society, there is no such thing as an individual. The sad truth of the moment is that we are hindering ourselves, breaking down our fellow people for the temporary gain of ‘ourselves’. No one benefits, and no one wins. Now, I want to bring us back to where this all started: to be mad, insane, is just to be outside the norm, madness is a label assigned to those who think ‘differently’ by those who lack thought. My thoughts, my ideas, will very likely be viewed as ‘naïve’ or ‘crazy’, but I’d like you to take a moment to think, try to do something you’ve never done before. I’d like you to tell me what you want; there are two parts to this question: ‘what do you want to create out of what you have?’, and ‘if you could create something out of nothing what would you make?’ What is it exactly, that you want out of life? Let me know what your answer is, if you don’t know, then say so, I’d like to analyze and help as best I can.