#queerphobia anecdotal Tumblr posts

  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    05.05.2021 - 2 days ago

    sorry ive been more Fuck The Man than usual tonight i just had to petition all day for edible food and as a result im still in that die-on-this-hill mode. like everything im saying i still stand by but i usually intend to be not Quite so grim for yalls sake

    #yall are valid. none of this lowkey almost rage is directed at followers or mutuals #yall rock #this is about problems caused by OTHER folks ie the government queerphobes abusive parents etc #italked#itagged#original post #governmental terrorist acts and voluntary human rights violations anecdotal #queerphobia anecdotal #abusive parenting anecdotal #im finally eating food! its been twelve hours and instead of eating dry cereal im eating. . #well #wet cereal. cereal with milk and everything #okay maybe my standards are low but in my defense i havent had full-on proper cereal in months #this is an Event for me specifically #im celebrating fuck anyone whos gonna take that from me
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    05.05.2021 - 2 days ago

    seeing rampant biphobia on my dash again. do better, guys

    #tired of cis people calling bi/pan people transphobic for bullshit reasons #im trans. fuck off #you do not get to throw around the term 'transphobic' if youre cis and you clearly dont know what the fuck youre talking about #bi women who dont identify as lesbians are not straight and never have been #AND there is nothing wrong with loving men. its not lesser. stop with the radfem dogwhistles #the term lesbian used to include bi women for centuries before terfs started being a fucking thing #terfs are the ones who started trying to tug it away from bi women #bi lesbians are allowed to exist the same way they have for longer than your whole family has been alive #pan people are not transphobic. pan people do not harm bi people #pansexuality is either a sibling or subcategory to bisexuality and thats fucking valid #people are allowed to use whatever word suits them best and that doesnt mean they secretly hate everyone else #let people live and if youre cis and you wanna fucking bother me about you not being able to get over your bi/panphobia you can fuck off #i mean it. go fall in a ditch and fucking stay there. im over this bullshit #bi and pan folks i WILL fight for you and die on this hill if needed idfc #anons fucking step i swear to god #italked#itagged#original post#queerphobia anecdotal#about queerphobia
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    03.05.2021 - 3 days ago

    driving the down with cis bus today, hop in

    #cis people get real mad real fast lmao #gotta be leaking followers like a sieve at this point. the absolute hubris #amazing #anyways back to business ey lads #italked#itagged#original post#queerphobia anecdotal
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    02.05.2021 - 4 days ago

    look i havent seen this though it is possible i just missed it, but good omens au where crowleys one of the suitors on a straight reality dating show, and aziraphales a sometimes-seen handyman. theyre both he/him enbies but if crowley mentions it hes likely to get booted off the show, and if aziraphale mentions it he might get pulled into some invisible job or fired altogether

    #italked#good omens #guess what genre of reality television i just watched a youtube video about. i am unoriginal #someone signed crowley up as a prank and he decided to go with it #aziraphale meanwhile just kinda was around on the property before it became a reality show setting #so he got kinda absorbed into the crew because it was either that or leave and try to figure something else out #i dont actually have a plan for how the reality show dating itself ends. crowley sure isnt chosen thats all i know #he eventually walks out to take aziraphale on a Proper Date #he comes back to fulfill his contract to be droll and sarcastic until he gets booted #but hes definitely not trying his hardest (not that he ever was) #gabriels the host who also owns a significant amount of the show and beelzebub also owns part and really like #works the contestants up into a lather. typical stress-them-out-for-the-drama bullshit #anathema manages the social media. donno what newt does. might be the best boy #warlock is a strong contender amongst the suitors but then adam wins in a twist #the lady focus turns out to not be a lady after some introspection post-show #comes out as a man with adam still dating him. its one of the few relationships post-show that actually lasts #most chosen suitors break up w the focus soon after the show ends. not these two #itagged#original post#queerphobia anecdotal #workplace abuse anecdotal #Gray has Thoughts about Good Omens tag
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    02.05.2021 - 5 days ago

    its funny how often cartoon queen bees are designed as like, Girlboss™️, despite the fact that bees dont know or care what gender is

    #italked#original post#queerphobia anecdotal#sexism anecdotal#misogyny anecdotal #how many times are the queen bee characters snippy stuck-up vapid quick to turn murderous etc and for what #theyre not even girls they dont Do gender. they dont give a shit #itagged
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    01.05.2021 - 6 days ago

    honestly when i was born the nurses shouldve just looked into my eyes and put “trans” on my birth certificate and let me figure it out later

    #italked #assigned trans at birth deal with it 😎 #sorry im insufferable today lmao #itagged#original post #'but if your agab is trans how are you different from that' my dude. my babe. my friend. its just a piece of paper #people will still assign a baby gender no matter whats on that thing. at least in this cisnormative society right now #i will still be Assigned a gender itll just be noted legally slightly less #by the way there IS an error on my birth certificate (or if not an error than an unexpected legal snafu) so like. theres precedent #queerphobia anecdotal#sexism anecdotal
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    19.04.2021 - 2 weeks ago

    terfs are hypocrites. theyll shout “my body, my choice” to the rooftops but when it comes to the bodies of trans people, woc, and often specifically muslim women, suddenly the right to bodily autonomy has disappeared from the eyes of exclusionary white fauxminism. binders, hormones, puberty blockers, top surgery, bottom surgery, hair and muscle, hijabs, niquabs, etc., anything that christian-raised atheist/christian cis white women dont use, all of that is the enemy to them.

    #theyll shout about transitions and '''suspicious''' (normal and natural) amounts of body hair and muscle definition in women of colour #theyll rage against muslim women (or patronize them) about what they wear and how much skin they cover up #i will say terfs do have to be racist to be terfs. because its a western binary #but nowhere does their base defining ideology Have to specifically target muslim women. they just decided to #because they think theres only one right way to be a woman and its- surprise surprise- the way they happen to be. privileged as hell #its like. really really common in terf spaces to use white christian/christian-raised athetist voices to speak over muslim women #italked#itagged#original post#anti-terf tag#about queerphobia#about racism#misogyny anecdotal#sexism anecdotal #about religious discrimination
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    07.04.2021 - 1 mont ago

    terfs love to threaten me with their angry karen fists and their boss baby attitude as if i dont regularly interact with some of the deadliest spiders in north america. listen babe if you dont have actual venom youre ranked too far low to matter, let alone provoke caution

    #anti-terf tag #multiple terfs are still bitter over the last time i interacted with them and its funny to watch them like. #post only two things #one: bitterness at me and my ideas #two: complete cynicism and an unhealthy relationship with death and human decency #ive said it before terfs are fucking Broken. most of them are like. fully detached from the idea of like #being decent to other human beings #theyre especially shit to muslims time and time again #like im not saying terfs are inherently incapable of decency im saying theyre behaviourally removed from it #any terf can change they just rarely do #every morning they get up and they choose karen mode every goddamn day #terfs are just gay conservatives. thats literally the only difference #terfism is just like. Local White Woman Thinks Being Gay Means She Doesnt Have To Confront Privilege #thats it thats the whole ideology #like yeah youre gay youre also white cis perisex allo allistic conventionally abled christian or christian-flavoured edgy atheist etc etc #but they dont wanna hear that because they dont like being responsible about anything #queerphobia anecdotal#about queerphobia#racism anecdotal #religious discrimination anecdotal #ableism anecdotal#italked#itagged#original post #like ill be honest i barely even react to the spiders. like i see them and make sure they dont hide in my clothes and thats It #thats the whole reaction. im too used to small stereotypically-'pest' creatures to be fazed more than that #so even if terfs did develop extremely dangerous venom sacs they would still have to be in my house for me to even blink #let alone react
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    14.03.2021 - 1 mont ago

    its inherently funny to see terfs who mock safe spaces and dni’s getting EXTREMELY desperate. they make a post like “lol TRAs and their community hashtags and close-knit friendgroups, cringe” and then all their tags are just like:

    #terf safe #terfs please interact #radfem safe #radfems please interact #terf please interact #radfem please interact #terfs please. please #please god interact im begging you #im so fucking rabid for attention please #please interact with me

    and then it gets like one note because even with all those tags the fact remains that terfs are too busy fighting over christian islamophobia vs "all religion is bad forever" edglordiness to really ever make a community so much as a common assertion that The Ice Is Thin, Perpetually

    #there is no terf community theyre all extremely angry at other terfs #but also ironically enough- Fucking Desperate for validation re: their bigotry #they keep giving me these amazing windows into their blogs for free and its just #every single time its just simultaneous hoarse screaming and complete and utter desperation #instead of learning how to respect others they pour all their energy into a fight they lost a long time ago #trans rights are human rights #but theyre still like NO I CAN CHANGE IT JUST YOU WAIT and its like hun. #i regret to inform you the bare minimum for human decency moves farther left over the course of history #you are being left behind #youve lost. move on #trans rights have been gaining more and more momentum for longer than youve existed #you can only irritate progress never halt it in its tracks #do you really wanna dedicate your life to being a speedbump? because best case scenario thats all youll accomplish #i hope you have reckoned with your own short-lived reflection on the ocean of the world #i really do #italked#itagged#original post#anti-terf tag#queerphobia anecdotal#about queerphobia #religious discrimination anecdotal #racism anecdotal
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    13.03.2021 - 1 mont ago

    to all “gender dysphoric” terfs, who are trans but managed to get gaslit into denying it: get better soon

    #thinking about that terf that said straight-up like. #'i thought i was a trans man and i dont feel like a woman and i have dysphoria. but then i learned 'woman' isnt a feeling #so im like. a woman and also still struggling with dysphoria' like sir??? thats. that doesnt make sense #that so clearly doesnt add up #obviously you can be trans without dysphoria but if you have gender dysphoria thats like. thats a trans thing #how can someone recognize they have gender dysphoria and still think the trans existence is a lie??? #wild #there are five lights indeed #anyways i dont feel TOO bad for them tho coz like. fuck terfs lmao #like regardless of gender that doesnt give them the right to attack trans people #theyre still a bad person regardless #just like. a really surreally bad person #like kanye and his weird denial of oppression #the tier of mental gymnastics could win an olympic medal #italked#itagged#original post#anti-terf tag#queerphobia anecdotal #anti-[kanye west] tag
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    15.02.2021 - 2 monts ago

    its sometimes a bit interesting to be demi², coz as part of the aspec community i see a lot of “friendship isnt a stepping stone to sexuality/romanticism, and its not lesser” because while i wholly support the meaning of the statement and 100% i think there need to be more totally platonic close, well-developed friendships in fiction and they need to be normalized more irl just in general without pressure for anything more, friendship is a stepping stone toward relationships for me, specifically

    like, thats not all it is, but its the only way i ever reach the point of attraction. its like, a pathway that has a bridge over a river as part of it, and attraction is on the other side of the river, and the river itself is too deep and treacherous to ever successfully cross without the bridge

    while that friendship path is more than just the bridge, that bridge is still my only way of getting to the other side where attraction is. and i never cross the river with the intention of reaching attraction, it just kinda Happens every once in a blue moon

    friendship is wholly just as valuable as romantic and/or sexual relationships (if not more), and it is a stepping stone (in fact, The Only stepping stone) for me. its a weird coexistence

    #actuallyaspec#actuallyaroace#actuallydemi#actuallyasexual#actuallyaromantic #(the '²' in 'demi²' signifies that im both demisexual and demiromantic) #since i have paranoia and intrusive thoughts i feel the need to state that i dont have a crush on anyone #sometimes when i talk about being demi i worry im giving friends some sort of signal that im into them when im not #its a dumb worry but its there nonetheless #its just internalized queerphobia and stuff #about amatonormativity#amatonormativity anecdotal#queerphobia anecdotal#italked#itagged#original post
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    08.02.2021 - 2 monts ago

    “in this essay i will” but i actually continued talking: the inherent binary-skewing present in rejecting the all-importance of a Single Truth

    minecraft steve + alex and good omens aziraphale + crowley have the exact same canon re: gender. angelstock dont have any particular gender or gender identity- theyre just Angelstock. minecraft inhabitants of any realm do not have a concept of gender, either, as theyre all “the same one”, and procreation is done through summoning, building, or otherwise non-binary-dependent means.

    despite this, humans often assume that steve and alex are cis-binary male and female respectively, and both human characters and real-life human consumers assume aziraphale and crowley are cis men (because nothing says “cis man” like embodying the form of a human woman when necessary (aziraphale) or on a whim (crowley) with zero fuss).

    steve and alex, skins in more way than one, dont care, as they dont understand what gender is to begin with, and gameplay does not draw a distinction between what you use the player character for and the character itself- like many things in minecraft, your identity is yours to build as much or as little as you want to your own discretion. if you play as steve, you are steve, to as much or as little a degree as you want to be, and the same goes for alex. your story is of your own creation.

    aziraphale and crowley also dont particularly care, with neither of them bothering to correct assumptions more than in cheeky rejection of assumed privilege. theyre older than gender, and, as such, only engage with it how and as they wish, with their default being a slightly drunk-looking wave of the hand and the declaration: “nonbinary”.

    crowley shifts throughout the ages, presenting both as a man and as a woman, with a few more ambiguous looks as well, reflecting the eternal shedding of a snake and his paradoxically simultaneous concern over, and dismissal of, the idea that he belongs anywhere- he has been on heaven, hell, and earth alike, and nowhere quite matched the status quo. he has plenty of experience in various works, but never found something that he stuck to, so much as it stuck to him. he doesnt mind his work being known, but also refuses personal recognition. his biggest dramatics take place in private, behind closed doors, and he becomes most sincere when noone is looking. fittingly for his relation to humans, he is entirely liminal.

    aziraphale, set in his ways as he is and under constant scrutiny from gabriel to not indulge “too much”, sticks to a more specific range of expression, which becomes narrower and narrower as time goes on, and his panic at the idea of losing his everything continues. as his moral claustrophobia increases, the variety of his physical presentation decreases, settling like a dropped coin- shakily, blurrily, but with a definite center (specifically, “gay something-or-other”). however, he consistently tends to blend the aesthetics of various forms of comfort, engaging both the fancy and the humble, shiny shoes in search of a subtle restaurant in a bloody revolution, a dapper coat to a quiet, ill-fated rendezvous, a velvet waistcoat faded around the buttons with decades of age, an extensive library cluttered and dusty. he is a reflection of all the things he has enjoyed over the years, expensive and free.

    perhaps it is because of these characters’ lack of concern over assumed gender that they are so often mislabeled as cis-binary, that the mainstream idea of a “default” gender is applied to them, as their relation to gender is not the explicit focus of their stories, and therefore could be missed by those purposefully turning a blind eye to queerness. or perhaps it is because they are so obviously nonbinary to anyone who bothers to look that certain audiences feel the need to push back so hard against the very concept.

    either way, their gender reflects their plots- minecraft exists as a literary vacuum for you to build your own stories in, the same way you build your own characters, or redefine presets entirely; the earth in good omens exists as a mix of bureaucracy and chaotic freefall, with gender presentations a combination of necessity and personal exploration, complicated as the people they belong to.

    both minecraft and good omens deal with the supposed conflict between all-knowing gods and randomly generated worlds, infinite power and restriction in accordance with personal code, and being both familiar with, and foreign to, another world, but they do so in different ways befitting their respective mediums. steve and alex are singular, monolithic units with blank spaces where descriptions would be, whereas aziraphale and crowley are packed densely with every second of six thousand years on earth, and more from before it. where steve and alex have the exact same possible struggles, crowley struggles with fitting nowhere fully and aziraphale struggles with belonging too much to one thing entirely, and their entire plot revolves around being labeled as opposites.

    both perspectives and explorations of this hyperspecific genre are important, and contribute much to the conversation. good omens details a story of particular moments and canonical history, and minecraft faciliates any possible story and history to take place. the overlap in approach lies in their ability to recognize both the variety of experiences, and the importance and inherent power of granting autonomy to said experiences. even saving a realm in legendary battle or performing good deeds can be unwanted if it is forced.

    #i betchya got whiplash from the titles pondering of nonbinary cultures connections to anti-solipsism and the words 'minecraft steve' lmao #good. never trust me #Gray has Thoughts about Minecraft tag #Gray has Thoughts about Good Omens tag #italked#itagged#original post #tell me im wrong. look me in the eyes and try to tell me minecraft steve doesnt have the same gender as a biblical angel #you cant#queerphobia anecdotal#about queerphobia #workplace abuse anecdotal #governmental terrorist acts and voluntary human rights violations anecdotal
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    05.02.2021 - 3 monts ago

    as a trans person, i will continue to address terfs clowning on my posts, and anyone who thinks that im not allowed to do so woefully misunderstands a) how to fight bigotry, and b) that im trans so i get to handle this however i want

    #another fun fact: if you aggressively disconnect with me on discord you have disconnected with me entirely. #i am no longer in your life you need to move on #italked#itagged #anyways can you imagine telling a trans person theyre not allowed to address terfs couldnt be me #look into the 'dont feed the troll' fallacy because it is a fallacy and it has enabled bigotry to go unchallenged #turns out the basic truth of 'standing by does nothing' continues to be the truth #original post#queerphobia anecdotal#anti-terf tag#about queerphobia #if youre reading this and you dont know whats going on dw its not about you. the folks this is about know without a doubt its abt them #and theyre weirdly clingy #especially for people who claim that ignoring issues is the way to go lmao
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    02.02.2021 - 3 monts ago

    terfs say “i dont want to fuck you” as if youd even give them a handshake and its maybe the biggest display of obliviousness i think ive ever seen

    #like im sorry am i supposed to be disappointed by that? im good lmao #italked#itagged#original post#anti-terf tag#queerphobia anecdotal
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    20.01.2021 - 3 monts ago

    ive been seeing the “adhd is all bad and terrible the worst and Always A Disability™” thing going around again and granted i dont know which shitty agenda is behind it but something is, because thats not. true for everyone? if all of your experiences with adhd, 100% of them, even stimming, hyperfocusing, and attention to detail, are incredibly depressing, you might have like. Depression

    and even if you dont, most people dont feel that way. personally, im wayy on the other end of the spectrum of experiences on this, my adhd is an important and valued part of me and i wouldnt ever wanna be “cured” of it. i enjoy having adhd. my adhd is not a disability for me, tho some other peoples adhd may be for them. we’re both valid

    like ive said before, the disability label is a personal decision, not one to be made for others

    as a trans person, as an autistic person, as an aroace person, ive seen the pattern before of something suddenly being talked about in an alarming way, and typically its the strategy of a group that wants it stigmatized for some shitty end goal. the trend of people condemning adhd as the worst, most miserable experience on earth for every person who has it,, feels like another one of those

    for some people it sucks, i have no doubt! bad situations can double the minuses of having adhd sometimes. but not all of us want to be cured. not all of us view our adhd as a disability, and not all of us think of it as a net negative at all. acknowledge the people who dont view their adhd as a tragedy, dont erase us

    #italked#actuallyadhd#actuallyneurodivergent#actuallynd#original post#ableism anecdotal#about ableism#queerphobia anecdotal#about queerphobia #the eugenics alarm is being pinged in my brain. it really just. sounds like its headed there #like that sounds like the end goal/conclusion to the adhd stigmatization thing #i am not a tragedy for having adhd #it is not a burden or a disability #if you cured me of my adhd youd kill who i am #i dont want or need saving from it #some people may identify as disabled re: their adhd and thats valid as well #you have to acknowledge both varieties #itagged
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    25.12.2020 - 4 monts ago

    people who mock aspecs are really embarrassing. go to another planet i dont wanna be like, Associated with you

    #actuallyaspec #every time theyre like 'im not bigoted i just dont like weirdos' and then they call aces and aros weirdos and im just like. #looks at camera #its literally just a dogwhistle and its completely transparent #its also really really boring #its 2020 are you really so bothered that im not attracted to you like im not sorry #when are they going to realize theyre only digging down. they dont look better the longer they obsess over this #italked#itagged#queerphobia anecdotal#about queerphobia #it was never okay but it just gets more and more pathetic over time #amatonormativity anecdotal#original post
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    23.12.2020 - 4 monts ago

    “im only attracted to women,” and “im attracted to anyone whos not a man” arent synonymous because the gender binary is a lie

    some women are also men. some are genderfluid, some arent

    some fem-aligned, transfem, and/or lunarian folks dont identify as women at all, or dont identify as only/completely women

    some unaligned, transneut, and/or stellarian folks arent men

    some masc-aligned, transmasc, and/or solarian folks arent men

    some folks exist entirely separate from conventional alignment, presentation, or galactian alignment

    stop relying on implications of the strict gender binary to get across specifics

    #im not gonna even get into the terfs who claim to be attracted to trans men #because terfs dont deserve the time of day tbh #but like #just for the record #if youre attracted to a body regardless of the gender of the person with said body #thats called being multispec (or mspec for short): bi or pan or omni or multi etc. #whichever label you feel fits best #or if its a tie and you want just one label pick the one with the flag you like better #that happens more often than i think non-mspecs realize #and its completely valid #to mspecs: #if you didnt know whether to pick bi or pan for example and you chose based on flag: i would die for your honor #you are completely allowed to exist this way #folks are also allowed to identify as multiple mspec labels- like me! #i primarily identify as pan but i also identify as bi #i just default to the pan label and aesthetic #italked#itagged#original post#queerphobia anecdotal#about queerphobia #alternating-bolded for legibility coz tumblrs bullet points arent spaced out much #anti-terf tag #tumblr staffs Mistakes anecdotal #tumblr staffs Mistakes receipts #coz you can see the spacing right there #theres no option to increase it without a workaround
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    12.10.2020 - 6 monts ago

    i just heard someone on the news say "gay and lesbian people" and it aged me twenty years

    #quoting discord!me tag #lesbian is a subcategory of gay you can just say gay people #gay is an umbrella term the same way queer is #its just that mspec aspec and trans folks have their own extra labels they use to combat erasure #italked#original post#queerphobia anecdotal#itagged#about queerphobia #and also 'queer' has less erasure associated with it overall. if someone says 'im queer' theres no 'default' identity assumed
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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    19.09.2020 - 7 monts ago

    i hate that cis people are taking the “folx” spelling from people who just liked the way it looked

    like, i dont think its “the genderneutral form of ‘folks’” because thats redundant and stupid, ive just used it once or twice in past years (before it was a Cis Thing) because we dont use what is considered “the cool/mysterious letter” often enough and english is a fuck to begin with

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  • g-a-y-g-o-y-l-e
    12.09.2020 - 7 monts ago

    demystify the wlw experience. draw us with body hair and chocolate spots. draw us with messy, unglamorous hair. draw us existing in the grit and grime of the earth, draw us snort-laughing and sneezing. draw us at “bad angles”, with funny looks.

    do not only draw us for conventional consumption, or youre not drawing us at all.

    #im not saying you cant draw glamour ever but if its the only thing you draw constantly no matter the situation #think about why #italked#itagged#original post#misogyny anecdotal#bodyshaming anecdotal#sexism anecdotal#queerphobia anecdotal#about misogyny#about sexism#about queerphobia#about bodyshaming
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