Well fuck, this shit again?
I read a lot about narcissistic personality disorder because my parents fit this behavior so perfectly. However, I notice that my 1st oldest and 3rd oldest sister share some of their same behaviors.
I started looking for these type of behavior from my 3rd oldest sister. She lives near us therefore she’s practically living with us. She rents an apparment from my mother and she gets access to our main Wi-Fi, our washing machine, and our food. She basically only shit, shower, and sleep in her apparment.
The problem I have with her is that she would come over and criticize our house. Saying how dirty it is, how smelly it is or how loud and cluster it feels. I’m literally the only one out of the 4 people that sleeps in the house that cleans it. Therefore whenever she passes one of her snarky comments about the house I feel like it’s aimed at me.
I also have a problem with her eating our stuff. Before this whole COVID 19 shit I would buy my own Cheerios and Pb &J. I would buy a separate box of cereal for my 2nd oldest sister because she like the honey, but I like the chocolate Cheerios. My 3rd oldest sister would always eat out the honey Cheerios and when only the chocolate were left she’d get mad. I stopped buying the honey favored and just kept getting the chocolate, but I would feel bad because my 2nd oldest sister didn’t like those. In the end I just kept on buying the 2 cereal and just kept mine in my room. My 3rd oldest sister would say I was being mean and rude and too exact like my mother with my cereal. Consequently I just stopped buying cereal overall. I notice she started buying her own stuff but kept them in our kitchen and when I would clean the cabinet would find her “stash”.
The same thing happens with the PB&J. Recently my 2nd sister has gotten sick so she can’t eat sweets but the PB&J had finished too fast. That’s when it occurred to me that my 3rd oldest sister has been eating the PB&J all along. With my 2nd sister being sick she realize that no one could take the blame for her eating out the PB&J so she went and bought a new one. But it was the WRONG flavour.We literally have jars and jars of empty PB&J that we recycle and use in the kitchen. The fucking jar is purple. My 3rd oldest sister favorite color! But this bitch went and got the bloody red strawberry flavor PB&J! I told her she’ll be the only one eating from that and she didn’t have a problem with that, but I know if I go get the purple correct PB&J she’d eat from that as well.
It might seem “cold hearted” And minuscule to be upset about food sharing but I’m mean when it comes to food.
In addition, this occurred over the weekend. Monday or Sunday my 3rd oldest sister asked me to scan some documents for her. Now I honestly didn’t want to do it because well, I didn’t and she was also being a bitch to me over the weekend which made me more not want to help her. However, I told her I would do it and I did. I scan her stuff for her the Tuesday evening as she was getting home. Just 2 papers no big deal. While I was at my desk doing the scanning I called her to give her back the papers and to see how she wanted me to send her the documents. She said Whatsapp so I sent her the file. “FILE” ONE DOCUMENT. She got upset because I scanned the 2 paper and saved them as one document. It was saved as PDF I’m sure you can separate PDF files if you wanted to, and I told her that. She then asked me to scanned 2 more other paper for her right there and then and to save them separately and as a JPG document. Ok done. Sent via Whatsapp.
Now tonight. I came out of my room to eat, but ended up starting to wash the dishes. She came over from her apparment saying she want me to scan more things for her. I told this child I will help her after I finish the dishes. She started shouting at me that her papers are more important and that she’s asking me to do this one thing for her because she’s on a time deadline and that she wants someone from work to print them for her tomorrow morning. I kept telling her I will help her, but after i finish the dishes. She’s said no. I can either put on my laptop and let her use it or she will take the printer to her apartment and connect it to her laptop on her own. I told her I don’t want her using my laptop and I just need to finish the dishes and then I’ll get to her.
This woman started saying how everyone have to do everything on MY timing. The kitchen gets clean when I want to clean it! Everyone has to wait on when I’m willing to help!
Now that’s when my mother chimed in saying that she wakes up every morning and have to wash the dishes so she doesn’t want me to come out the kitchen until I finish and that my sister should help me so I finish faster. My sister didn’t say anything to my mother; with that she just kept yelling how I never help her and that she’s on a time deadline and that she’s just asking me to scan some documents and all I need to do it enter my password on my laptop so she can use it.
I told her numerous times I was going to do the scanning for her while she was shouting at me. She said she can’t wait on me so she’s just going to take the printer with her and connect it to her laptop on her own.
I only took half an hour to wash up. Just 30 mins. She could have waited. When I went to my room my desk and draw that the printer was set on was pull out of place and the cereal box that i use to hold all my printing paper on the floor. She just left them like that. Didn’t even bother to push back the desk and draw against the wall.
Now this got me pissed because most likely she saw my ballet shows on the floor and I honestly didn’t want anyone from my family knowing that I’m practicing ballet in my room again. I also didn’t want her using my laptop beucsse we all my phone notification displays on it and my emails and plus it’s my fucking laptop I have to right to privacy, don’t I?
I went to her apartment and yelled at her for leaning my room like that. And that she crossed a boundary for taking the printer out of my room like that. And that it was unfair of her to treat me in such a manner because I was going to help her regardless. She just sat there and said “you’re not over this yet?” While on her phone. She then told me to get out of her room and that she’s gonna put in her headphones just like i do because she doesn’t want i hear me.
I walk around cleaning the house while listening to podcast so I’m always wearing my headphones and my family hates that.
The display board that I bought to make her and my 2nd sister their birthday number sign slipped behind the desk.
Seeing the damn display board that I want to make them their birthday number sign from reminded me of what my 3rd older sister told me a couple weeks back. She wants to have a birthday part. She wants to have it on the roof, with fairy lights and a photoshoot background and to have her boyfriend buy her the balloon numbers to show her age. She wanted to have her own party but from the time she started talking about it no one really paid her mind. That’s when she told my 2nd sister to join in on her birthday party so it can be 2 birthday celebration into one party. She knows the family is more inclined to do stuff for my 2nd sister. Even my mother passed a comment saying that she’s only joining the two birthday because the family is more willing to do stuff for my 2nd sister than for my 3rd therefore she’s using my 2nd sister to piggy back ride on.
A couple weeks ago the 3 of us went to buy decorations for the party, and when we came back home we went to her apartment to look at what they got and what all needs to be done in order to start decorating. She listed stuff like: cleaning the roof, putting up decorations, making food arrangements, getting tablets and chairs on the roof, checking if all the lights are working and making the photoshoot background. Just talking about it made me tired. I knew I would be the one who would have to help her do all these things. At that moment I was laying on her bed tired form the day and now tired from the mental thought of doing all those things and I just sighed in exasperation. She got mad and said she doesn’t even want to ask for my help and that she doesn’t even want to ask me for the bare minimum of help.
I want to be mean and just don’t help her at all with the party. Make only a birthday number sign for my 2nd sister and not my 3rd. I want her to keep the printer and not give it back and just keep it. I want to go buy my PB&J and cereal again and tell her non for her. I want to be so fucking mean to her and just cut her off and just ignore her all the fucking time and just stop talking to her over all. But we fucking live together!