Waiting for the vet and she was crying. Let her out of her cage and she has her face buried in my beard. via /r/aww https://ift.tt/37qVLpO
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A couple of months ago, my cousin “Jane” invited me to spend a day watching foreign horror films with her and some friends. This was the first time I met her girlfriend, “Edith”.
One of our movies was Train to Busan. Afterwards, we talked about what we would do in the event of a zombie apocalypse. When asked what my plans would be I laughed and said that I would give up. Realistically, I couldn’t handle the zombie apocalypse- I have too much anxiety and health issues to even try.
Jane asked me what I would do with my cat. I said that he wouldn’t be able to survive the zombie apocalypse at all, so I wouldn’t do anything with him. We would just stay in my house after barricading ourselves in. Edith said, “What if someone else could take better care of him?” and I said, “They couldn’t, he’d be better just chilling with me, and he’d slow them down anyway”.
My cat would not have a hope in a zombie apocalypse, or any sort of apocalypse. He is, for lack of a better term, special needs. He only has half his teeth so he has to eat special food, and he has separation anxiety to the point where if I’m in the bathroom and he isn’t, he starts to have what is basically a panic attack. He has absolutely no reflexes and is horrible at chasing or catching things. These all count against his survival as a wild cat, or kept by others. I’d also like to have his company if I was locked inside my house forever.
The next day, my cousin texted me and said Edith was upset. My plans read more as “I don’t care enough about my cat to try” to her, and this is proof I wouldn’t let other people more qualified than me give him a chance. I explained myself to my cousin and said I was sorry for upsetting Edith, but the zombie apocalypse wasn’t going to happen anyway. That was it.
However, last week, I had a Zoom call with family. Jane announced that her and Edith were engaged, which we are all very excited for. Near the end of the call, I picked up my cat so my mom could see her “grandkitty”. Edith asked if I could still take care of him since the apocalypse happened and I lost my job, and I told her that I was making enough money on commissions to make sure he was healthy. She said something along the lines of “Good, I wouldn’t want him to be hurt because his dad is too stubborn to help him out”.
As of this morning, I learned that Edith doesn’t want me at her wedding. She is convinced that I wouldn’t give my cat a better life if I was unable to help him, and has apparently been telling her friends and family about it, and they agree that she is in the right for not wanting to be around me since I don’t want the best for my cat. She’s acting like I’m actively abusive to him. At first I was annoyed about all of this, and felt like she is really reading into things, but if she’s this upset I’m really starting to think I am in the wrong for my “plans”. It was just an offhanded comment, and I can’t change anything about it now, but AITA?”
So this is basically 2 questions, and I hope I don’t come off poorly in either.
I have had health issues most of my life, but have never been considered “disabled”. I don’t even know exactly what constitutes this. Do my experiences count? Or do I have to file somewhere? Regardless, I suffer from moderate to severe anxiety and panic disorder as well as OCD. I have many drawbacks because of this, but one example is that I once had to ask a professor to stop flickering the lights to get our attention as sudden sensory disturbances heighten my anxiety and cause panic attacks. For physical issues, I was diagnosed with Graves’ disease in late 2019, for which I did receive some mobility help while I was finishing my degree (campus was large and I would become sick and faint from walking long distances to classes). This year, I was diagnosed with IBS, which causes a lot of pain and surprise bathroom trips. I know that my various health issues have resulted in me having to make multiple accommodations in my life, but I really have never been educated enough on the community of people with disabilities to know if I belong here.
My other question is basically about my rights a someone that needs accommodation. I have left a voicemail for the local disability rights organization to see if I qualify for some legal help, but I just want to make sure I’m not barking up the wrong tree. I have been working from home for a call center since august of this year. They are VERY strict about time management. They set our 15 minute breaks and 30 minute lunch and you must not defer from the times they set. For a while, we were able to step away to the restroom when needed, which was helpful for me if I was suddenly feeling unwell, as my chronic illnesses can do that. Around September, they let us know that we could no longer take bathroom breaks and must go during our scheduled break time. People, myself included, raised a fuss that we can’t plan when we need to go to the restroom, to which management told us to get a doctors note if there was a problem. It took me a while to do so since I had to wait for my insurance to kick in to see a doctor, and the first doctor I saw was a piece of crap, to put it lightly, so then I had to wait to see a different doctor before I finally got a note. I go to send it in, but then I’m told that I was supposed to have my doctor fill out an ADA form too. I haven’t been able to get into the doctor again given my work schedule, and I found it ridiculous that nobody bothered to give me the resources I needed to file for accommodations. Today, there was an issue with our schedule being changed overnight this week without any notice. When my boss called me to address this issue (I was upset as I scheduled a doctors appointment for my mom), at one point she asks me “are you happy with this job?”. I tell her that I’m still a bit upset about how hard it’s been to just get some extra breaks allowed for my health issues and she says “well, sometimes call center work isn’t for everyone.” I hope I’m not overreacting, but this feels like she’s pushing me to quit just because she doesn’t want to accommodate my needs. I was absolutely livid, to the point of tears. I’ve now been told by friends that it might be a good idea to speak with a legal representative since this could be considered discrimination to not provide proper resources and accommodations for my needs. I guess I just wanted to see if anyone has had a similar experience? What were you able to do?
Thank you in advance, sorry this is so long but I’ve never had issues with an employer like this.
Hi , I am having to be rehoused by the council due to my health & disabilities. I sometimes use a wheelchair when needed . My paperwork says I’m entitled to mobility two bracket property. Does anyone know what this means ? Would really appreciate any information on what to expect regarding the property. Many thanks
I was wondering about shaving . I always had a some sort of beard in face all the time. Its grown bit thick now and i dont like beards.
I cant really seem to shave it off completely. I could still see short hair sitting on my face (looks like its under the skin) kinda makes a dark shadow around my lips and mouth.
Is there anyway to get that baby looking face back
🔥 This strawberry’s seeds started sprouting while it was still on the plant
Focus on the important things, fellas.
Glad I didn’t go the Trump route