they’re really very different kinds of attraction for me too and I always thought it was sort of bc I grew up believing I was a lesbian and being attracted to boys felt inherently wrong to me, like I struggled when I met my husband because this amazing human I was attracted to was… not a girl. BUT that was almost a decade ago and I’ve clearly allowed myself to be attracted to any gender and they definitely still feel different. they’re both good but they’re different.
omg this is so interesting to me bc it was the opposite for me!! it was weird to accept having romantic feelings for a woman when i started dating sandra, and to this day i have a lot of struggles w/ like internalized homophobia…. i question myself like every time i think a girl is attractive or like scare myself out of feeling that way bc it feels not right. anyway. bi struggles