Life is difficult and we all get our unique share of pain, suffering, and hardships. Most of us already know this.
What is the solution, then?
Let's figure out from this small story.
Guilt says “You did...” but shame says “You are...”
Practically, this is the difference between telling someone “That was a racist thing to say” and telling someone, “You are a racist.”
Why does this matter?
Shame is isolating and destructive. Defining someone’s identity as racist (or any other negative label) tells them that change will be difficult or impossible because this thing is in their very nature. It takes a lot to change the essence of who you are.
But what if that’s not who you are? What if that’s just something you said? If you said something racist, you can apologize and be mindful not to say it again. What a simple solution, especially when compared to trying to change your whole identity.
Shame doesn’t work as a tool for social justice because it suggests that people can’t change, and it writes them off as unworthy of love and belonging because of a mistake they made. As a result, people experience more feelings of depression and anxiety, which lead to even more individual and social issues like suicide or mass murder. Shame tells people, “Society has rejected you and given up on you, so you might as well give up on yourself.”
Fear of shame can sometimes be an effective deterrent from unaccepted behavior, and this is why people have mistaken shame as a decent social justice tool. The problem is that no one is perfect, and therefore none of us will be able to completely avoid doing unacceptable things. That means, at some point in our lives, every one of us will experience shame. Experiencing shame makes you feel isolated and alone, and yet it is one of the most universal experiences you can have.
We know God has so much better for us. God offers forgiveness, love, and rebirth into a family. He invites us to discard our tainted identities and assume new roles as children of the King of kings. We know who we are. Even when we fall, our identities are unshakeable, because they are established by the One who created the heavens and the earth, the One who reigns forever. We are chosen. We are redeemed. We are loved and we have a place in God’s kingdom. We are worthy because he says we are and he makes it true.
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What holds us back in life?
Find out in this short story.
You don’t become confident and resilient by imagining things. You do that by working on yourself to make yourself become stronger. To turn yourself into someone who accepts challenges, you must first have the will to and prove that you can accept trials in your life. Although simulation does help, it’s not enough anymore. You must push yourself to your limits and go beyond what you thought you could do so that you could develop a better personality and character for yourself. Also, in doing that, you could become a tough guy that’s not only all talk.
You can gain from watching television, shows on the internet, and the likes. There’s no doubt about it. But if you’re going to push yourself then you might as well try viewing those that you somehow dislike but can endure. It may help you become tougher as a person since you’d then have to build your will to withstand something that doesn’t appeal to you.
When it comes to pushing yourself over the edge, though, one of the best ways for you to do so is to get past physical exhaustion. So don’t just exercise or do martial arts training. From time to time, you might want to do what you thought you couldn’t accomplish because of your physical limitations. Be daring. Sometimes, try to go against your tendency to say no or enough when times get tough. Say yes to working hard and expect that you’ll come out tougher after the ordeal.
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RESILIENCE PART 11 !!
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Don’t Mistake Silent Endurance for Resilience
And it was these exact qualities that garnered praise. “You don’t have to worry about her,” people told my parents, and everyone swelled with pride. If no one understood me, I’d learn a new language. If my accent was a barrier, then — poof! — all of a sudden, I sounded American. If my bank balance was negative $900 one month, I’d figure out how to reverse it. I chased the high of conquering…
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Never forget those who stood with you like a rock when the whole world was against you.
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