Just made an appointment online and I’m half sweating half thriving on god complex
Just made an appointment online and I’m half sweating half thriving on god complex
I am not wasting my potential. I am taking a break.
Thing I just realised!
You can block companies on Social Media! You can block fast fashion brands! and other things!
I don’t know if this affects the company in any way but it stops you from interacting with that company.
Self love, can be, but is not necessarily always being infatuated with yourself & kissing the mirror as you stroll by... self love is that inner work you have been avoiding.
Voir 5G [Explicit] de Booba dans Amazon Music
Voir 5G [Explicit] de Booba dans Amazon Music
"Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don't belong. You will always find it because you've made that your mission. Stop scouring people's faces for evidence that you're not enough. You will always find it because you've made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we don't negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts. Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than you."
- Brene Brown, Braving the Wilderness
Avocado and cream cheese spring rolls, with miso soup, infront of an episode of Twin Peaks - after an afternoon of tidying around the apartment 🧹🧺
It's 2am, I know it's late. When one decides to change and build better habits, it is not done in an instant. You can't change your body clock overnight. You can't change your life overnight just because that's what you decided to do. I still don't know why it is so easy to fall back on bad habits rather than to just do the right ones. Maybe this is my default setting? Nope. I refuse to believe that. I know better, and I want to do better. Today was good. I've managed to do some errands and household chores. Washed the dishes, did my laundry, watered the plants, let my bb doggo play in the water, captured photos of my "for sale" plants and posted it on my page, arranged my clothes, and exercised. It's just basic chores, but I am really proud of myself right now for doing all of that. It is not everyday that I have that energy to move or accomplish something, even if that small. Though my day went kind of busy, I still didn't feel productive because I didn't woke up early, by early I mean morning. I woke up at noon. And after I exercised at night, I was distracted by social media gossip and live selling of luxury bags. That's how my evening went basically. Anyhow, I am typing this because I am trying to turn things around, at least before I sleep. And I will do better when the sun rises. Thank you, Lord.
Day seven of making strangers days because I have ✨trauma✨:
Allow yourself your favourite things now and again, a few slices of pizza and some sweet treats won’t kill you. Noticed I no longer crave these things, but instead just have them now and again without feeling restricted or urgent✨
I’ve been on a posting spree today but I took my B12 shot yesterday and am having a few hours of mental clarity that I’m capitalizing on. Sorry to my followers for flooding your dash, I’m sure in a few hours I’ll be back to my usual brain fogged self. Today I’ve been thinking a lot about what I miss about when I was working a corporate job that required a lot of attention to my appearance and what parts of a beauty routine I’ve abandoned. So this energy may not last but while I’m here, here is
Tabitha’s Ten Tips for Spoonie Beauty/Self Care
Nail care. I don’t care your gender nail care is something that every spoonie should consider practicing because it only needs to be done like once a week, takes about 20 minutes, can be done in bed, can be done by someone for you if you have a generous caretaker or a friend who enjoys these things, and can provide a small self confidence boost every time you see your pretty hands! Plus it can be a bonding activity to have someone help you with it, my partner and I call it “spa night,” but it can also be a platonic bonding opportunity. If you like colors, Maniology or other stamping polishes are your friend, because they’re thicker than other polishes and truly only require one coat and they dry faster. Plus stamping is easier than many other forms of nail art if you’re feeling ~fancy~ because the stamping plate does the designs for you- and unlike acrylics you don’t have to attach fake nails or do anything too fancy or complicated. If you don’t like color simply cutting and using a clear base coat can help you avoid chewing and still give you that confidence boost! It’s probably my favorite form of self care because I can do it once and reap the benefits for up to two weeks without any further effort. Great for saving spoons.
Skin care. Showers are already hard enough for spoonies. So learn to minimize your skincare routine. Find a brand of face wipes that you like (I get mine from dollar tree but you can adjust based on your budget) and that will do 90% of your work for you. No need for fancy scrubs, serums, cleansers, etc. Just wiping with a face wipe every night before bed and sleeping on a satin pillowcase will do wonders for your skin. If you have the spoons to wash your face twice a day, Curology is a really great self care subscription that cuts a full routine down to 2 steps in the morning and 3 steps at night. For someone who used to have a full 8 step routine (cleanse, exfoliate, serum, eye cream, acne spot cream, full face moisturizer, SPF in the AM and night cream for the PM) cutting down to 2/3 steps has been a major energy saver. It can be done in less than 10 minutes sitting at the sink. My previous skincare routine was about a half hour in the morning and night plus I usually did face masks twice a week adding a half hour on those nights too. I usually sit at the sink with two microfiber facecloths (I find terry cloth too rough and it hurts my skin) and use one to wet my face, apply a cleanser, and wipe, then apply the Curology blend which has replaced all my other steps, use the second clean facecloth to pat/wipe any spots I put too much medicine on because sometimes with joint pain I’m not the most precise, and apply their non comedogenic moisturizer.
Hair care. This is the second reason a silk/satin pillowcase comes in handy because it’ll reduce knots drastically. If you have curly hair, the “curly girl method” is easily done when sitting in the shower, and actually advocates for skipping shampooing and not washing your hair every day, and also avoiding heat styling. It does however advise flipping your head over to blot which for me triggers major dizziness due to dysautonomia. This step is easily avoided if you just towel dry your hair by grabbing it in fistfuls from the bottom and letting it air dry. Also, always always use a wide tooth comb with conditioner in. You will exert a fraction of the energy for the same results. The conditioner helps the comb glide through your hair. No more tugging! If you have straight hair, I’m not an expert on that, but you can also probably cut down on washes if you follow some of the same advice and learn to braid your hair to cut down on knots. If any straight haired spoonies have more advice please reblog!
Hair care 2 electric boogaloo. Different hair cuts and products require different amounts of energy. For example I find mousse requires 10x more energy than cream which still requires 10x more energy than a sulfate and alcohol free conditioner that I can use in the shower and leave in as my only product. I personally find my hair is more manageable when it’s long because I don’t need to spend as much time styling it and it pretty much takes care of itself. When it’s short, if left to its own devices, I look like a poodles butt. Some people however find their hair is the opposite and shorter is easier. Work with a stylist who understands your hair type to get a low maintenance cut and advice on what products work for you. Half shaved and undercut looks are also very in style right now and less hair means less to take care of! Also, I find when I dye my hair a bright color, it’s less noticeable when it’s not perfectly primped and the color kinda masks any frizz or messiness. A jar of manic panic can do wonders for distracting from a little frizz.
Showers. You don’t have to shower every day. Dermatologists actually say showering every day can strip your skin of essential oils. Get some strong deodorant (find what works with your body chemistry) (dollar tree is amazing for having small bottles of nearly every major deodorant type to experiment with) and get a shower chair. Do it! Doooo iiit! They’re like $30 and life changing. You can shower in sections. Do your legs one day, upper body another, if that’s what it takes. Get a long handled “back washer” to help reach your feet and lower legs without bending. I find using liquid soap easier than bars because I can use a long handled loofah to reach everywhere. Also, embrace sink showers or baby wipe showers. If all you have the spoons for is a quick rinse, just getting pits and groin in is important to help stave off any skin conditions that can develop when those damp dark sweaty areas are left to their own devices for too long. If soap and water is too much, at least try and use a gentle baby wipe on those areas every day. Something antibacterial may help you avoid stink for longer but it comes with the trade off of stripping your skin of necessary oils and according to my derm does more harm than good in the long run. Bonus- Jergens also has a wonderful lotion you can use right in the shower for super smooth skin that you can slap on your long handled loofah and slather on your body if you wanna feel soft.
Teeth and oral hygiene. This is one you really need to put your best effort into not neglecting. Not only does a clean mouth feel better dental health is a huge risk factor for other health conditions. If you do nothing else in terms of self care, get an electric toothbrush and some mouthwash. All you need is a glass of water and a bowl to spit into, you don’t even need to get out of bed and to the sink if someone can bring those things to you. Electric toothbrushes save you from having to manually scrub, you just move it around your mouth for two minutes. I advise the rechargeable ones because they’re not as heavy as the ones you put clunky batteries in. Also mouthwash after you brush can help overtake any nasty pill tastes you have plus it makes it a little easier to get away with just brushing once a day if your nightly brush is pretty thorough and in the morning you just rinse after your pills. If you wanna go the extra step, I find whitening strips easier than whitening gels because the trays for the gels often make my jaw hurt after about 10 seconds.
Pedicures. Pedicures are nice but can easily be avoided by simply wearing closed toed shoes. I strongly advise getting help for this particular self care item because it involves a lot of stretching and bending to reach your feet. If you want to have a nice pedicure, investing in a small foot bath ($25 at Walmart for mine) can help. Toenails are thick and are easier to cut when wet which means less time bending to reach them. There are also many brands out there that offer pre painted nail polish “strips” which are just stickers you put on your nails which will again cut down the time you spend bending to reach your toes. Remember to cut straight across to avoid ingrown nails. Since this only needs to be done about once a month in my experience, hopefully a generous friend or caregiver can help you out with this one. I consider pedicures to be one of the most high risk/low reward beauty routines for spoonies because it requires so much bending and you can find lots of cute closed toe shoes.
Makeup. Liquid foundation requires a lot of energy to apply correctly and even more energy to remove thoroughly. Powder foundation isn’t as full coverage but flopping a big fluffy brush around your face requires less precision and energy plus it’s easier to remove, or if you run out of spoons midday, it’ll be less clogging on your pores if you end up sleeping with it still on. I also advice embracing lip gloss, because the shine makes any small imperfections less obvious than harsh matte lipstick if joint pain makes you a little imprecise. When it comes to your eyes, liquid eyeliner is always going to be the most difficult to apply because a tiny mistake can be hard to undo and if your hands tremble like mine you’ll end up looking like a panda. If you get pencil grips you can put them on those cream twist out eyeliners that give you a ton more control. And because it’s cream, not liquid, any mistakes can be blended into a smoky eye look. For eyeshadow I recommend steering clear of dense brushes and using fluffier brushes as they are much more forgiving and don’t require you to push as hard to transfer pigment. It is possible to develop a low spoon makeup routine but it will take a little trial and error. Also just remember you can always get a hand mirror and do your makeup in bed to conserve spoons. There’s also no law saying you can’t do a killer eye makeup if you don’t have the spoons to do foundation or vice versa. You don’t have to do a full face if you just wanna do a little. There’s no rule saying it needs to be done at a vanity. And there’s no law saying just because you’re housebound or bed bound you can’t still wanna feel beautiful and put some makeup on if it makes you confident and happy. Makeup is self expression and even if you don’t have anyone to express it to doesn’t mean your desire to self express goes away.
Clothing: you can look cute as hell without any buttons or zippers! I repeat, you can look cute as hell without ANY buttons or zippers! Fuck the people who say stretch waistband jeans are tacky. Thrift stores are amazing places to find clothes that are A super comfy from being pre washed and B going to be more likely to have accessible clothes than fast fashion places. For femme people you can also find super cute leggings on Amazon. I own leggings that range from galaxy print to dragon scales to various cat faces that are super stretchy, comfortable, and total statement pieces in themselves. You can also find stretchy palazzo pants if you are looking for something comfortable but a bit more trendy/professionally acceptable. They have no zippers or buttons and come in all colors and prints, are loose and flowy, and 99% of workplaces see them as professional enough because they’re on-trend right now. Yay for 70s/80s coming back into style! Palazzo pants are a fave of mine because they are very versatile depending on what top you wear. For masc people it’s a lot harder finding pants that don’t have buttons BUT cargo pants often have drawstring waists. For professional wear, if anyone has any advice, please reblog! Unfortunately masc people don’t have too many options that I know of for button free/zipper free professional bottoms. For tops, layers are your friend especially if you have thermal dysregulation so thanks Taylor for making cardigans A Thing again, and they’re passable attire at most offices. In case your office is particular about the tops you wear, for femme people, here is an example of a suit top without buttons. For masc people, clip on ties are your friend, and if your boss is persnickety about you wearing a suit top with buttons or a button down shirt, remember the ADA is on your side and you can request to wear a polo and sweater as a reasonable accommodation. A selection of neutral colored tops and comfy open front cardigans can ensure you can layer up or down as your body wages internal war with its own thermostat. They can be as oversized and bohemian or trim and preppy as you want and are very very versatile- ps while many have buttons you don’t actually need to use them and they’re just kinda decorative. Long cardigans have also been a godsend when I’m using my wheelchair as the backs of my tops tend to ride up and my cardigan keeps me warm and my skin from chafing against the chair directly. Also, don’t ever let yourself fall into the trap of thinking you are “too disabled” to wear something. If you see a sexy crop top you wanna rock but you’re afraid you’d be cold, then rock it with a tank top underneath that matches your skin tone. If you find a dress you love that has a zip up, they sell tools that can help you zip up. If you find buttoned jeans that make you feel like your bad self, you can always wear a long top to hide that you didn’t do up the top button. Also for boob havers get yourself a front close bra.
Hair removal: first of all question whether YOU want to remove your hair or whether society has told you your natural body hair is unacceptable. I personally love to be smooth as a dolphin but shaving my legs is exhausting and waxing is ouchie owie no good. I have embraced hair removal cream. You will need to experiment to find which brand irritates you the least. But for me slathering it on like lotion, in bed, and wiping it off after 10-20 minutes of watching TV is a lot easier than the precision required of a razor and requires less total time bending, and since I don’t need water, I can do it in bed instead of adding to my total shower time. It does stink though so for people sensitive to chemical smells you might find waterless razors a better alternative. When it comes to tweezing my eyebrows I simply can’t anymore. My joints scream in protest after like 2 minutes of holding the tweezers and I tremble too badly to reliably pluck the correct hair. If you’re not housebound, eyebrow threading is a relatively affordable ($10 a session) way to keep your brows under control that only requires leaving about once a month once the regrowth is pretty bad. If you are housebound, I recommend going very slowly. You cannot put the hair back on. If it takes you 3, 4, 5 sessions over the course of a week to successfully pluck without pain or causing yourself to tremble and pluck the wrong spot, so be it. You can also just use a cheap disposable razor to shave the “unibrow” and leave the rest to grow wild as a compromise if you don’t like the sight of your brows totally untamed but like me can’t use tweezers pretty much at all. Just remember Frida Kahlo the beauty icon had a unibrow and we still hang her self portraits in galleries.
Bonus: Mobility aids: these aids are an extension of your body. Decorate them, personalize them, make them yours! Learn to love your mobility aids and show your personality through them. They can be a fashion statement if you choose. My wheelchair is covered in stickers for my various conditions (bonus points it prevents people from questioning why I’m in a wheelchair despite being ambulatory for short distances) on one side and the other side is covered with stickers for gay rights, women in stem, cats, baked goods, sunflowers, positivity quotes, I have a chibi octopus on there too, and I’ve covered a great deal of it in rhinestones because it’s my damn mobility aid and I spent long enough tethered to a black/navy blue corporate dress code that, if I’m too sick to work, I’m at least going to celebrate my freedom to lavishly decorate everything in my life.
In case you’re wondering why I put so much effort into a self care post it’s partly because I think caring for our bodies can help us resent it a little less. I resent my body for keeping me from what I want to do. Some days I just call it my “meat sack” because it doesn’t even feel like a part of me, just the miserable husk I’m trapped in. But when I tell myself “my meat sack may not be useful but dammit it’ll be decorative” and I care for my skin and I put on my makeup and my cute clothes I feel a little less hatred towards my body and as much as I wish my body wasn’t part of myself it ultimately is. Hating my body is hating myself and I don’t want to hate myself. I’m still working through the feelings of betrayal I have that I lost my childhood to trauma and now my adulthood will be spent managing my illness and hoping that maybe one day I’ll be able to clean a whole house without collapsing or be able to go for a walk without being bedridden the next day. So right now I am going to celebrate the good things my body can still do. I can still make my body beautiful, can still make my skin soft, can still dress in cute clothes and paint my nails pretty colors.
Also would like to add that while this was written from a femme perspective any masc identifying people can still benefit from a lot of this stuff. Self love and self care doesn’t have to be gendered. You don’t have to paint your nails any color to still trim them and put on some nail hardener so they don’t crack, you don’t have to be femme to wanna clean up your brows, you can still be masc and wanna cover up some skin redness with some powder foundation.
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Picked up my specs today, your girl is officially part of the glasses gang 🤣 (part time)
In other news, the amount I’ve just paid for a mani pedi is CRIMINAL!! 🥴💀😭 i don’t even wanna look at my account lmaoo. SeLf CaRe though isn’t it 😒🙃
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