your face has been carefully constructed, perfectly arranged. the curve of your hips and slope of your lips, the pull of your eyelids, the slightest dip in your back, they’ve been drawn through generations like a single red string to end up with you. in a way you carry the faces of your ancestors, and that alone—the fact that you are you, the fact that you’re what millions of years have brought forward—makes you worthy of life. you don’t have to be or do anything more, you don’t have to earn your breaths or heartbeats. you’re already meant to be.
just a gentle reminder to be nice to yourself. I ate McDonald’s today & just finished crying because I feel guilty. I just talked myself out of not eating breakfast & spending an extra hour doing cardio at the gym. we are not all perfect, but breaking and realizing unhealthy behaviours and then doing something to proactively make it better & healthier is how we nurture and love ourselves 😣❤️ here’s to hoping my tomorrow goes better mentally then it did today.
we hope you found ways to produce joy in your life this year.
you were always deserving of kindness, consideration and honesty. don’t blame yourself for other people’s mistakes and negligence towards you. how they treated you was a conscious choice that’s never been yours.
To those who have high-functioning mental disorders, you are beautiful.
You are not an imposter when you are feeling less than 100, and your experiences are most definitely real and valid. You are not being inauthentic when you can’t keep up that 100% all the time. You are human, and your experiences and struggles matter. You are more than your struggles, but your struggles are completely valid!❤️
This was going to happen sooner or later. So, here it is… Welcome to the DISPLACED BY DESIGN blog!
I decided to start this blog for two reasons. The first being I love to tell stories, and the second to create an online presence for DISPLACED BY DESIGN. I created this brand in October 2018 before I finished undergrad, and honestly I had no idea of what we could become. I knew I wanted DISPLACED BY DESIGN to be more than a clothing brand and do more than make t-shirts, so my main objective has been creating a strong message that represents a feeling. Personally, I’ve always been set on turning passions into words and relating to people from all walks of life. I’d then blend the two in order to establish a connection. So, for DISPLACED BY DESIGN, authentic connection needed to be at the center of this brand.
I’ll admit, in the beginning I rushed the process of starting a t-shirt company and made a lot of costly mistakes — as with most entrepreneurs starting up their first business. However, I wouldn’t go back and do anything different. That’s a cliche, but, for whatever reason the only way I am able to learn something is by making the mistake myself instead of listening to someone’s advice or learning from their mistakes… Is it just me?
DISPLACED BY DESIGN had meaning before having any kind of logo or signature design. I was okay with that because my design skills were nonexistent at the time. I was able to utilize a simple distorted cross, I created using Canva, as a ‘mark’ for people to recognize DISPLACED BY DESIGN. But I struggled to attach meaning to the distorted cross and the initial online introduction brought more Christian followers than followers of streetwear. While faith is at the center of my life, the meaning behind DISPLACED BY DESIGN centers around self-acceptance through authenticity.
“Simply put, to be displaced means to lack a home, or belonging.”
So, there I was doing everything I could to spread awareness for DISPLACED BY DESIGN when it hit me… outside of my immediate social media footprint no one knew of this clothing brand’s existence. To take it a step further, I realized I was more focused on getting my friends, family, and followers to recognize I was doing something productive instead of establishing a foundation for DISPLACED BY DESIGN to build on. As 2018 came to an end, I’d sold a few t-shirts here and there but had given away far more shirts than I had actually sold. To this day, I’ve given out so many t-shirts. After launching DISPLACED BY DESIGN online I had done no advertising — not even a Facebook ad.
“I didn’t belong in the streetwear industry.”
This is partially because I was a part time sales associate, then an assistant store manager at a Finish Line retail store, living well beyond my means leaving myself no money to save, yet alone investing into my t-shirt company. But mainly, I had no idea what I was doing and was going at it alone with little to no plan nor research done. I didn’t belong in the streetwear industry. I just enjoyed looking good and being intentional with my outfits. But, at 6’0”, 6’2” on a GREAT day, weighing more than 260 pounds I couldn’t wear whatever I wanted to wear without standing out or being clowned by friends and family for my jeans being too tight.
I loved graphic and novelty t-shirts, layers, sneakers and boots, and accent pieces to take my outfits to the next level. But had no idea what went into planning the construction of a t-shirt from the collar, style of yarn and fabric, the difference between single and double seamed neck and shoulders, the label, or where such garments were produced… Talk about “in over my head.” All I wanted to do was tell stories, my story, create designs I’d want in my closet, and build on a feeling I had felt that was similar to those I had met throughout undergrad.
“…my own self-worth was determined by people and things and not me and a greater purpose.”
During undergrad, I had two college radio shows, hosted several events on campus, and established a small amount of clout in the artistic community. Amongst the outspoken, rebellious, unique and different ‘people’ that gravitated towards arts and crafts, music, and other creative outlets as their choice of expression; I had established myself. Finally! Throughout my entire exhausted college career I had finally felt a part of a community that welcomed freedom of expression.
I had clout, whether it were related to radio, music, fashion, resale, or generally being a likable guy. My name stood for something more than what it once had, yet stood in the shade of what it could have once been. Nonetheless, I rode the wave of communal recognition until it washed me up on the shores of shame, trauma, and rejection.
In the wake of completing undergrad with honors and outstanding recognition from my college, I was admitted into a postgraduate business marketing program. What a time to be alive! Not shortly after completing undergrad, my grad school admittance, and continuing onto the next phase of life, my once credible name was nullified by the reemergence of past mistakes.
I had worked so hard to establish myself outside of who I once was and had worked so hard to restore my presence in the lives of those I had once let down, wronged, or mistreated with brief encounters; that I lost sight of who I could become if I had only focused on me, and no one else. Because I had given myself to every single person I had come into contact with, that meant that my own self-worth was determined by people and things and not me and a greater purpose.
That was, until, December 11, 2019 when I had no choice but to take a look at who I was and take responsibility for who I could become. To be honest, there are only a handful of dates that stand out to me in life, but all I can say is that each and every one of those dates give me every single reason and all the motivation to give DISPLACED BY DESIGN everything I have.
“…creating a community.”
My purpose with this brand is to create a community for like-minded people to come together and express themselves without judgement. I realized, through growing this brand, that I was afraid of living my truth. I was afraid of the world rejecting me, which delayed self-validation and accepting myself for who I am. With DISPLACED BY DESIGN, we encourage living your best, and most fulfilling life. Once I started to accept myself and live my life authentically this brand stopped being a t-shirt company.
Creating DISPLACED BY DESIGN’S meaning has given my life purpose. However, it’s not just about me, it’s about using my life experiences to uplift humanity. My hope is that by doing so, each person I impact will uplift the people around them until we are all whole. We are uniquely designed and experience life differently. We should embrace that. We should not compromise ourselves for “likes” or validation from others.
We are all DISPLACED. Your story belongs to you, and no one else. We experience life as snowflakes, each and every one of us is different from the next person. As a snowflake, we are all unique, yet we are all perfect in our own way. Every life is different and born of its own special set of circumstances. Every story is unique. Own yours and every decision you make. You’re where you belong.
Join the DISPLACED.
Just a moment to celebrate for myself that my fanfic with 66 in the title just hit 66 kudos. Tiny boosts to the mood each an every one of them. 😁
Am I Tumblr Famous yet? Jw.
Idk. Trying to measure my achievements without a “Trophies Unlocked” tracker is difficult.
You know what? I’m tired of this self deprecating shit. Today I looked in the mirror today and said, “I’m really cute.” And it was neat. So I think everyone should just. Say that about themselves because it feels nice and everyone’s cute so what’s the harm?
Relationships of any kind take mutual effort, care and understanding. If those things aren’t present, and you don’t feel respected, it’s okay to walk away from the places and people you’ve outgrown.
Not everyone will be capable of loving you the way you need to be loved, but you will always be worthy of love and good things❤️
It is completely okay to outgrow people, and it’s completely okay to surround yourself with people who are going to support you as well as help you grow. It’s okay to outgrow places and things as well. Go where you can grow, heal, and be happy❤️
“𝙸 𝚍𝚘𝚗'𝚝 𝚗𝚎𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚋𝚎 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚕𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚋𝚎 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎𝚍 𝚋𝚢 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚕𝚍. 𝙸 𝚍𝚘𝚗'𝚝 𝚗𝚎𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚋𝚎 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚜 𝚝𝚘 𝚋𝚎 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎𝚍 𝚋𝚢 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚜.” - 𝙼𝚊𝚝𝚝 𝙺𝚊𝚑𝚗 💕
Remember validation comes from within. We are enough. Anticipating other people’s responses hinders us from realizing the infinite potential that leaks through our being. I saw someone write “here to express, not impress” and that resonated with me. That is our Truth. As co-creators of our reality, we are here as a novel expression of the universe. Everyone represents a distinctive experience the universe wants to live out to expand. We are source. We expand. 💞✨☁️
∿ make plans in front of you but don’t invite you
∿ have a (second) groupchat without you
∿ hang out without you
∿ have code names for other people you don’t know about
∿ are uninterested in getting to know you (on a deeper level)
∿ rarely / don’t initiate contact
∿ get you in trouble
they’re not your friends.
live a more fulfilling life.
live your best and most fulfilling life. we believe in you.
I have to start accepting that I will never be the old me again. Almost like a switch was flipped.
I feel like I have lived several different lifetimes in the course of less than a decade. And each time I live a new life, I learn so much about myself.
I learn lessons, hardships, new strengths and so so many weaknesses.
I have learned that I had a propensity for self harm in the way that I got myself in trouble intentionally so that others would hurt me. I would find their buttons and pushed hard so they fought back.
I guess the point of this post is that I have come to the conclusion that despite all my many changes I can never be just one version of myself again.
So no matter how many more versions of “me” live in my life, I will carry parts of her at all time.
And that’s okay. Soon I will feel validated in this. And then I can actually rejoice in the parts of me that are worth carrying on.