Para ser respeitado
Para ser amado
Para ser respeitado
Para ser amado
Yesterday was my 2 years on T and it’s very warming to see how much happier and healthier I look now
I got called Frankenstein for being Trans last night by someone I considered a decent friend.
He doesn’t have Tumblr but how in the fuck of all things did he could say these things?
He’s lucky I’m not as offended as I should be. I’ve been through too much bullshit for this.
Boys can be cute and kind y'all just refuse to see trans boys as what they are
I think its about.. once a week that I mention to my mom that I wish I didnt have to be in the closet anymore. I dont wanna pressure her and stress her out since we’re tryina make this a joint effort and I’m kinda mostly waiting on her but like. it’s true.
shes the only one that knows so she cant really go around calling me “he” or “son” but she at least tries not to say “my daughter” and has corrected it to “my kid” a couple times which I super appreciate, but it sucks that only she knows.
I mean my sister probably suspects it at this point since I’m hanging out with her every day and I let a couple things slip early on (fun fact, she has a tumblr so that’s why I have this secret side blog for Trans Rants) but no one else in my family actually Knows about me.
aaaaand I hate it. :)
like please, I am your brother. I’m one of the guys. Don’t just shove me in a group with the other “young ladies” in the house. I don’t belong there.
im extra angsty bc my dad and I go for short walks most every night and just chat about whatever the hell we want (tonight was me infodumping about space which was fun) and those would be GREAT times to talk to him about me Not Being A Girl, but I’m a coward and I dont know how he’d react so I dont do it.
and it’s just AAAAAAAUUUGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
One time in 7th grade this dude bro kid threw a football at me and I actually caught it and later that day he did that nod thing at me and that was the best day of my life
Oh you think you’re trans?
Name (1) gender
i’ve only recently become aware of my own biases in when it comes to feminine trans men. i’ve caught myself thinking less of feminine trans men’s masculinity for the sin of embracing femininity. i feel uncomfortable when the topic of feminine trans men’s identities comes up. when i hear people claim that a trans man who explores femininity is “not really a man,” i don’t know how to internally debate it, and i hate it. this has never happened in regards to a specific person, it only applies to generalizations and theoretical situations. i can’t tell if that’s better or worse.
i honestly think a lot of it comes from the fact that for me, femininity has historically been quite painful. it’s been a game i’ve been forced to play in order to convince the world that i could fit in as a girl, i could live according to the rules. i used my feminine side as a way of clinging to acceptance by others, and of trying to prove to myself that i could live with being a daughter, or sister, or niece. being feminine equated to doing my best to hide my own identity, and i wish i didn’t, but i do resent it for being such an instrument of pain for me.
so it’s hard for me to understand how it’s possible for a trans man to not resent femininity, let alone embrace it. i get that not all trans men have the same experiences, but we do live in a society where anyone who went through puberty while being read as female has absolutely had the expectations and demands of femininity forced upon them. and a part of being a trans man is the discomfort with the social role of “woman” and femininity and identifying with “man” and masculinity instead. so how is it possible to both have that experience and also feel comfortable with exploring femininity?
i guess what i’m trying to say is, if anyone out there is willing to share their experience as a feminine trans man, i’d really like to hear it. i want to get past this mental block somehow, especially seeing as i am not completely unfeminine and would rather be done with self-hatred, and hearing others’ stories will help with that. how do you reconcile a rejection of womanhood with an embracing of femininity? replying to this post, asks, or messages are all welcome.
Just referred to myself as a “tired boy” in front of my mother…whoops.
Does the trans experience also involve talking to your mom that you’re not actually trans and then turning around two days later looking at binders and Packers?
new shirt 💙 heard somewhere blue is the warmest color
one more thing: cis LGB+ folk talking shit about trans guys is pretty uhhhhhhhhhh…….disgustingly inappropriate and downright frightening! :)
you can’t just take the fact that we’re male and conveniently disregard that we’re also trans. you think you’re justified in making hateful and derogatory remarks towards us because we’re men, somehow forgetting about the position of privilege and power you hold over us by being cis. being transgender, we are unsafe and unwanted in society in a way that you will never fully understand. every single day we are bullied, harassed, beaten and killed by cis people. we are fucking afraid of cis people
so no, your cis ass making posts about trans guys being trash really isnt okay. there is nothing okay about a cis person looking at a trans community and shamelessly flaunting their hatred for all of them. there is no way to extract the transphobia from that situation. its not right
Anyways I’m about to cut all contact from my sperm doner because he’s an asshole :)
A trans man walks into a bar:
Bartender says “sir can I have some id”
Trans man says “no……”
we understand this is coming from a good place and some may take it as a compliment and that’s fine but unless someone asks if they pass or asks if they look masc/fem then don’t say that they pass so well. you wouldn’t tell a cisgender person that they look masc/fem or that they pass. also it’s assuming the point of being trans = passing. although passing is the goal for many trans people (which is fine), not every trans person has the same transitioning goals, many people just want to be authentically themselves. some better compliments are “you look handsome/beautiful” or comment on something they are wearing, please don’t treat us differently because we are trans. also body related “compliments” make us uncomfortable.
Did I buy wheres wally pj bottoms that say “keep looking” on them just so that I could take a picture and make a “where’s willy, keep looking” trans man joke? You fucking bet I did.
imagine how sick it would be to get top surgery and then have a cool chest tattoo