We need to discuss how trans men and trans masc never get no slack for how they look.
If you're too feminine, you're not really a man.
If you're too masculine, you're never actually masculine enough. You're never really a man, stop trying.
If your style is too plain, you're told you're boring.
If your style is flamboyant, you're mocked as gaudy and ugly.
If you dye your hair, you look like a stereotype and need to stop.
If you cut your hair masculine, you're made fun of.
If you get a feminine haircut, see "if you're too feminine."
If you go for a weird haircut or wear things like cosplay wigs, you're also "enforcing a stereotype" and apparently "the reason we get mocked."
Masculine trans people literally can't do anything. I remember getting asked what sort of facial hair I'd want after going on T, and I said a goatee. I got bullied until I said a beard could be fine, and then got told a beard would be ugly on me. In the end it was "maybe just shave" as though they had a right to it.
Everyone has tried to push me toward not wanting facial hair, usually with baiting me with a positive seeming question about when I have a shot at growing some.
I can't wear anything either. I have a very extravagant style, and I got invited to go shopping with someone else. Every choice was mocked, and I (and the other trans man present) got things like "you know you can buy things you like, right?" As though we were just picking this stuff for shits and giggles, I guess?
The whole Elliot Wore A Plain Suit thing! Trans men and other masculine trans people get their clothing choice scrutinized. We're put under a microscope for every flaw, perceived or otherwise. It's almost as though the only way to escape the ridicule is to closet ourselves? Eh? Ehhhhhh? Seeing the transphobia yet?
It's always from supposed trans allies too, like. When you guys stop drinking TERF Kool-Aid and give a shit about any marginalized men (but for the sake of the post, trans men and trans masc) gimmie a fucking call.