#transandrophobia Tumblr posts

  • tealopossum
    26.09.2021 - 2 hours ago

    literally something that pisses me off is when transmen/transmasc people act like theyre oppressed by transwomen/transfem people or act like theyre ignored in favor of transfem people like. no the hell you arent. im saying this AS a transmasc person.

    in my time on the internet and in person, ive met countless transmasc people and so so so few transfem people

    90% of the trans information ive ever seen is catered toward transmasc people

    transfem people are constantly ignored, fetishized, hated, etc.

    and to every transmasc person who acts like they are ignored in favor of transfem people, what fucking planet are you living on.

    #i am so angry #transmasc ppl. do better. #i hope every transmasc person who cried about transandrophobia explodes #stop stepping all over trans women for the love of god
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  • aimlesswalker
    26.09.2021 - 10 hours ago

    yeah I’m really not ok with this anti-testosterone propaganda I’m getting for ads. I don’t care if it’s for sports; I’m tired of everything being anti-testosterone. T literally saved my life

    #fey’sthoughts #i could say so much about this #but I’m not #I’m tired #if someone else wants to talk about how it’s transphobic go ahead #transmisandry#transandrophobia #whatever word people are using now #i haven’t been following the debate #tw transphobia#trans male
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  • grinningjackal
    26.09.2021 - 13 hours ago

    Gotta say, one of the major downsides of being out as a trans guy at work is that now, when people objectify me for being latine, I get tepid, milquetoast "feminist" excuses instead of actionable responses from management

    #This is an old complaint but I'm still mad about it #the jackal speaks #transandrophobia #trans men of color
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  • dead-dyke
    26.09.2021 - 14 hours ago

    The hatred of trans men and the negative way we talk about men in queer spaces (and thus direct that language towards the queer men who surround us) , is one of the reasons I realized I was a trans man and one of the main reasons why I stayed in the closet for a year after figuring it out.

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  • dead-dyke
    26.09.2021 - 15 hours ago

    So fucking tired of the "If everyone was gay, the population wouldn't end, because trans people exist," Like, idk how to tell you this homie, but trans men aren't breeding machines and queerness can be opposing-gender attracted, so maybe calm the fuck down, thanks.

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  • nightmaretour
    25.09.2021 - 17 hours ago

    Whole lotta cis gay men seem to feel like it's okay to talk over trans people, particularly trans men, about gender dysphoria. "I love being a man, but if I woke up in a woman's body I wouldn't feel dysphoric! I wouldn't want to transition!"

    Well, have you actually had that happen to you? Permanently? Have you had to live every day of your life that way, knowing that you're not a woman?

    No?

    Then maybe stop imposing your assumptions of what it would be like onto people who have actually experienced it. Thanks.

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  • cock-dealer
    25.09.2021 - 21 hours ago

    anyone: (x) issue hurts and kills trans men and we should listen to them

    cis women:

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  • cock-dealer
    25.09.2021 - 22 hours ago

    “umm why don’t you center x group in your posts about reproductive trauma!!!!” how about I post what I want because I am an individual human being with my own experiences and feelings and you can make your own posts if you don’t like it! what a concept

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  • suber-man
    25.09.2021 - 1 day ago

    Wish this site would stop ignoring Just Kidding rowlings' transandrophobia in discussions about what a transphobic piece of shit she is

    Wish this site stopped pretending terfs don't hate trans men as much as they hate trans women

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  • cock-dealer
    25.09.2021 - 1 day ago
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  • boatwizard2
    25.09.2021 - 1 day ago

    I love being transmasculine, masculinity is good and embracing is doesn't make me less queer or a traitor or a bad person. transmascs people are loved and important and the world is better with us in it

    #transmasc#transmasc positivity #this isn't about the transandrophobia debate or anything im over that i think we just should be nice to each other
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  • trannysaurus
    25.09.2021 - 1 day ago

    actually if people are talking about abortion and pregnancy and menstruation and don't make it inclusive of trans people, then no, i'm not actually going to listen anymore. it's 2021, you don't have the excuse of "just not knowing". this kills trans people. that's not hyperbole. in the uk if a trans person changes their gender marker to 'm' the nhs will no longer provide lifesaving healthcare. this is a result of gendered language. as much as it is a big deal to address trans people as the genders we are, that is most definitely an undeniable facet to it, the forgotten problem is that gendered language is being used to deny us our right to free healthcare, and it is killing us. so no, i don't particularly care about cis women's feelings or blindspots on the matter.

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  • transmisogynys-affects
    24.09.2021 - 2 days ago

    I've seen a lot of debate on whether cis women are able to use their gender to oppress in the same way cis men might and a lot of people seem to be connecting other situations, like how white women can oppress black men. And these examples are all well and good, but as transmascs, it's simply okay to say that transmascs can be oppressed by cis women on the basis of gender. We don't have to justify ourselves with another oppression, we don't have to provide sources in order to be taken seriously.

    People should take our experiences seriously as is, don't let people make you shrink yourself down for their benefit.

    #mine#transandrophobia #on sideblog due to shadowban
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  • still-here-still-real
    24.09.2021 - 2 days ago

    I'm too tired to say this coherently, but BY GOD am I tired of women.

    Oh, right, I'm not allowed to say that. Let me be more specific.

    I'm tired of cis women being more offended by the inclusion of trans/nonbinary people on a post about abortion bans than they are about the FUCKING ABORTION BANS!

    I'm tired of both cis AND trans women talking over us (nonbinary and transmasc people), saying that we don't face our own oppression, that our oppression comes from being seen as a woman.

    I'm tired of white women always talking over woc, acting like woc don't face their own oppression for being both non-white and women, and acting like they're exempt from being racist. (Note: I am white.)

    I'm TIRED of women acting like because they're women, they're inherently perfect and wonderful! That anyone not a woman is inherently below them! (Eg, all men are inherently bad, women cannot rape, women are never the aggressor, etc)

    I'm TIRED of women acting like they are NEVER the oppressors, NEVER the ones in the wrong!

    I'm TIRED of being spoken over and silenced, and seeing my brothers and siblings spat on for daring to speak out against our oppressors!

    And like, I'm not saying sexism isn't real, that misogyny and transmisogyny isn't real!

    I'm just saying I'm tired of being spoken over and told to shut up. I'm tired of my siblings and brothers being stepped on. I'm tired of the oppressors playing the victim.

    I'm just saying I'm tired.

    #It's almost 1 am #I'm going to bed #tw caps #tw transphobia mention #tw transandrophobia mention #transandrophobia#transphobia
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  • stopcannibalizingourown
    24.09.2021 - 2 days ago

    Making this a separate thing from that last post on the matter, because I want to let that one be specifically about transandrophobia, but I’m now having a lot of thoughts about like... the way that there’s an expectation that AMAB trans people need to go on E while AFAB trans people should stay off of T.

    Like, you’ll occasionally see positivity for AMAB trans people that don’t hormonally transition, but it doesn’t ever seem to translate into better treatment or any acknowledgment beyond trite positivity posts, and I could probably count on my fingers the amount of times I’ve seen positivity for AFAB trans people going on T except from transmascs. I don’t know enough about how this manifests for intersex people to say anything on the matter, but if any of my intersex followers want to give input, feel free.

    tl;dr, all but the most palatable masculinity in trans people is demonized.

    #transandrophobia#transmisogyny#transmisandry #i need a tag for hatred of queer masculinity
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  • lovesthecure
    24.09.2021 - 2 days ago

    We need to discuss how trans men and trans masc never get no slack for how they look.

    If you're too feminine, you're not really a man.

    If you're too masculine, you're never actually masculine enough. You're never really a man, stop trying.

    If your style is too plain, you're told you're boring.

    If your style is flamboyant, you're mocked as gaudy and ugly.

    If you dye your hair, you look like a stereotype and need to stop.

    If you cut your hair masculine, you're made fun of.

    If you get a feminine haircut, see "if you're too feminine."

    If you go for a weird haircut or wear things like cosplay wigs, you're also "enforcing a stereotype" and apparently "the reason we get mocked."

    Masculine trans people literally can't do anything. I remember getting asked what sort of facial hair I'd want after going on T, and I said a goatee. I got bullied until I said a beard could be fine, and then got told a beard would be ugly on me. In the end it was "maybe just shave" as though they had a right to it.

    Everyone has tried to push me toward not wanting facial hair, usually with baiting me with a positive seeming question about when I have a shot at growing some.

    I can't wear anything either. I have a very extravagant style, and I got invited to go shopping with someone else. Every choice was mocked, and I (and the other trans man present) got things like "you know you can buy things you like, right?" As though we were just picking this stuff for shits and giggles, I guess?

    The whole Elliot Wore A Plain Suit thing! Trans men and other masculine trans people get their clothing choice scrutinized. We're put under a microscope for every flaw, perceived or otherwise. It's almost as though the only way to escape the ridicule is to closet ourselves? Eh? Ehhhhhh? Seeing the transphobia yet?

    It's always from supposed trans allies too, like. When you guys stop drinking TERF Kool-Aid and give a shit about any marginalized men (but for the sake of the post, trans men and trans masc) gimmie a fucking call.

    #Trans men#transandrophobia #this post is going to become a terf blocklist #I can feel it
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  • stopcannibalizingourown
    23.09.2021 - 2 days ago

    Question, especially for transmascs; is it just me or does it seem like most positivity for gnc transmascs (especially from non-transmascs) is implicitly targeted toward non-hormonally-transitioning transmascs*? I saw a tiktok that had someone on T saying it's entirely okay to want to transition to be a feminine man, and I couldn't figure out what struck me about that until I realized this was just. Unusual.

    Is this a real thing or am I making it up?

    *that's not to say that transmascs who don't hormonally transition have it better or anything, mind you.

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  • transmascissues
    23.09.2021 - 2 days ago

    i've been reading some leftist trans theory essays lately and, while none of them say it outright, some of them feel particularly dismissive of trans men

    one i was just reading talked about how saying "i am a woman" from a leftist perspective refers to a specific social class, and it immediately made me think "well then, what does the author think of trans men, a whole group of men who don't have access to the privileged social class of 'man'?"

    because really, as far as i can see, there are only two options here:

    the author assumes that trans men DO have access to that privileged class, which plays into the narrative that trans men are just trying to "transition into privilege" and that we "want to be oppressors"

    the author doesn't really see us as men because they ONLY see gender in relation to social classes (rather than understanding that gender as identity and gender as class can coexist) and according to that logic, the fact that we can't access the privileged "male" social class means we can't really be men

    and obviously, both of those options fucking suck

    i've seen a lot of people say "trans men should stop complaining about not being included in trans theory and start writing theory for trans men themselves" but the thing is, THIS is what we're complaining about - the fact that a lot of theory written by other trans people not only doesn't acknowledge us, but actually theorizes us out of existence by creating a framework for transness that in no way aligns with our lived experiences

    like...at least consider how trans men fit into your view of gender before putting it out into the world as fact, you don't have to write theory for us but that doesn't mean you get to write theory that specifically goes against us

    there's genuinely a lot of good stuff in these essays, but this stuff really just makes them hard to read and even harder to figure out if i agree with them at all

    one of these days i'll have the time and energy to write some trans theory that actually keeps trans men in mind

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  • cock-dealer
    23.09.2021 - 2 days ago
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