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as a queer black man i am generally not interested in the ways white people try to define my experience of being transgender.
my family is Congolese. trans & gnc people had existed in the DRC long before Belgium colonized and exploited us. but to “justify” enslaving my ancestors, white colonizers:
- enforced their construct of the gender binary to argue that our acceptance of gender nonconformity was uncivilized & primitive
- didn’t even include us in their definition of the gender binary, because black people weren’t seen as human
what does that tell you about the motives behind the promotion of the gender binary?
that’s why when i hear talking points like “are nonbinary people real? :0” or “Why You Need to Meet This Criteria to Be Transgender!!”, all i see are watered down attempts to gain power over people by erasing their existence. that’s what colonialism does.
white people weaponized constructs like gender to get away with literal genocide. i’m not falling for that shit again.
1When baby transs come out, do y’all have a second gender-reveal party? Cause if so that would be so cute and the least boring gender reveal party.
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A frankly distressing amount of my wardrobe is blue.. it’s not that I even like the color that much, it’s just what’s easiest to find stuff that fits in.
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“Beautiful is who you are; When no one’s watching, it’s your heart; That should be the one to tell your story; ‘Cause the rhythm that it’s beating is your glory…” 🎶💕🎶
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The feeling when you have none of your long sleeve shirts left and you’re forced to go out and let everyone see your prosthetic arm you’ve never told anyone about:
Drawing kokichi’s hair doodles will never not be fun
1MOE can suck my dick 🙃 jic you haven’t heard… they recently stopped a trans student from starting her hormone therapy, misgendered her, and threatened to expel her if she doesn’t obey them by wearing the boys uniform and cutting her hair short. Various organisations, such as myqueerstorysg and pinkdotsg stand beside her in support. I hope MOE fucks off with their transphobia asap
3what we’re not going to do is forget that some trans people frame their transition as a decision to feel more happiness, instead of less sadness
in my situation, growing up in a house with 4 sisters led to me not really being miserable about my body, but feeling very…out of place. i had to “be a girl” because that’s just what you did, no matter what you felt. i sure dreamed about being a boy all the time, but i wore the dresses and played with dolls and put on mascara* without a fight, because i didn’t have the space to question it.
eventually it was a moment of euphoria after years of questioning that helped me realize i was trans. in the middle of my very first pride parade, finally wearing a shirt and shorts from the men’s section, on one of the happiest days of my life- i got gendered correctly and it clicked!
i knew i’d be happier living as a man, and even though i had dysphoria adding euphoria to the mix was what changed my perspective, and helped me realize that transitioning was right for me.
TLDR: everyone’s perspective towards transitioning is different. don’t be someone who tries to define other trans people’s experiences for them.
1EVERYONE SHUT THE FUCK UP THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. I PAUSED MY GAY LITTLE SEWING PROJECT DEAD IN ITS TRACKS TO TELL YOU THIS.
MASCULINISING HRT THAT COMES IN GEL FORM IS.
IS MAN SPREAD.
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my friends (rightfully) making fun of men based on genetics and stuff:
HAHA PP HAVER HAHA XY CHROMOSOMES
me, an amab trans person that’s out to them:
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I know its 12 year olds who dont understand the issue but for the love of god STOP making pride flags and genders based on bullshit. Sleepy isnt a fucking gender. Dead also isnt a gender. This isnt cute it legit is frustrating to watch as a nonbinary person.
1name: zack
pronouns: he/him
age: 18+
reads for: transgender, aromanticism, asexuality, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder
sensitivity reading:
general questions and discussion: yes
in-depth discussion of plots and characters: yes
partial read (relevant sections): yes
full read: nowilling to read: original work, fanfiction (i will read the relevant parts of fics for most fandoms, but the ones i am most well versed in are the adventure zone: balance & amnesty, fullmetal alchemist, final fantasy iv and vii, legend of zelda, metal gear solid 1-3, homestuck, star wars episodes 1-6, and harry potter - book series only)
unwilling to read: extreme gore/violence, most other stuff is okay if i’m warned ahead of time. i will need specific warning for age related memory loss (i.e. dementia, alzheimer’s)
rates: i’m willing to answer a handful of specific questions for free. if you’d like me to read something and comment on it, i won’t do it for free, but i’m willing to work with you to find a solution based on your budget
contact: zack@houjun.com
additional notes: i have other life experiences people might find useful. i have been a caretaker for someone with alzheimer’s. i have lost a parent. i have experience with suicide, both in myself (attempted) and in loved ones (attempted and successful)
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