Hey, trans men! I’m planning out a story about a trans man who wants to have top surgery but whose mom doesn’t want him to because of her experiences with surgery. Please help me, I don’t think I know any trans men, and I have no idea how your experience differs from mine, so any tips on things to include or not include would be nice! Oh also the character is 17 but nearly 18, so I’m hoping I can add some things about his school life as well as home life.
If the general plot idea would be helpful, here’s what I have so far. I’m hesitant to develop the ideas any further due to, y’know, not knowing enough about the experiences of trans men, so this is all I have right now.
He has some sort of thing at school, haven’t decided that bit of the plot yet because I got the story idea from my mom, who isn’t as against the idea of surgery of any form as the mom in this story will be, but still had some pretty bad experiences with it in the past.
maybe a bit near the end, he tells his mom about how he wants to get top surgery, she freaks out and goes on a rant of some sort about how surgery won’t make him happy and that he should accept himself as he is, but then later ends up doing research on top surgery specifically and coming back to him with a new perspective, explaining that she had once had surgery after surgery to try and correct some deformities she had been born with, and eventually had to stop and accept that she was as she was and that surgery wouldn’t make her happier. When she saw her son wanting a surgery, she saw herself trying to look better, prettier, more “normal”, and so she reacted badly.
hopefully this isn’t offensive in any way? I don’t think it is but I don’t know.