I love my bench hoodie! Its so soft!!!!
I love my bench hoodie! Its so soft!!!!
Even hotter take: You can be trans without wanting to transition.
I hate the word “Valid”.
I want to vent a sec about this. Egg culture in the trans community, useless, utterly useless, throw it out into the trash. Egg culture is trash and that’s it, its fucking dumb and always has been. Valid is a word way to often in trans spaces, sometimes you *arent* valid, sometimes you don’t pass and it doesn’t help anyone to tell them they do, or have people hug box you into accepting your “uwu male body because you’re male so any way you present is male now”
Thats not how it works or i wouldn’t be dysphoric about my FEMALE body and GENITALIA, and BOOBS. These things aren’t *male*, they are female sex characteristics. Its so much worse to tell someone they pass or “ohh girl your makeup is bomb!” When in fact its messy and the dark and the only thing on their face. Just because someone is trans, doesn’t mean they need to be hug boxed and “validated” Sometimes people need a kick in the ass to help them, and when i say kick in the ass, i mean ADVICE. Like “Girl, you should ass eye shadow and some eyeliner, you’d look sooo good.” Or even a fuckin “My dude, you’re hair is nice, but i think it looked better like this” Or something.
Back to egg culture, i’ve been immersed in it to just see how the ‘other half’ handle it and holy FUCK, not everyone is trans just because they *feel* like they are, validating “trans” feelings doesn’t help, facts and advice do. Sometimes a feeling is just a feeling, a passing feeling that doesn’t mean anything. Sometimes a kink is a kink and nothing more, don’t encourage people to transition or come out as trans if they aren’t sure, don’t coddle them because if they ‘become transgender’ the world isn’t going to treat them with open accepting arms like egg hatchers do. Thats not to say all people who come seeking advice aren’t trans, but the majority are just kids who want to be accepted and this isn’t the way to do it.
Questioning people need real hard truth, advice, and suggestions to talk to people irl who might help. Real Life Experience is important and “validating” people online isn’t good for the mental health of people just wanting to be accepted.
I hate the word Valid, as if i dont already know i’m valid. I know who i am, i don’t want to be coddled and told i look like a man when i don’t, i don’t want to be asked my pronouns and orientation because of “uwu acceptance” if i don’t pass, i want to be told, or more likely, i already know i don’t so don’t remind me, give me advice. Do Not “Validate” Me, or my “twans male body uwu” I don’t need you to tell me im a man, i know i am, I just have a female body.
“Sometimes we are just the collateral damage in someone else’s war against themselves.”
This weight loss has left me with twig legs. Time to actually do leg day so I can have my buns back!
Multiple* trans people peed there now! Shoutout to the rhythm room for leaving this up In the ladies room💃💜
Obviously I’m a transgender man/FTM but I feel like it’s hard for me to be seen as who I am when people all across the political spectrum insist that my female transsexuality either means that I am exactly the same as non transsexual females or non transsexual males. It’s ridiculous to me that I could even be considered the same gender as someone who was born with a penis and was raised male and then lives as male for their entire life and it’s almost equally ridiculous to claim im the same as a female person who has absolutely no trans experience whatsoever. It’s extremely alienating and I’m starting to understand why so many trans people identify as “non binary”. I don’t personally find that term useful or meaningful in any way at this point in my life but like WHO are my people supposed to be? The only people I feel like are truly My Gender are transsexual men but I feel like people don’t even know what that MEANS and it feels extremely isolating at times no matter how many trans men I surround myself with.
Tried to draw some pastel gore.
Laverne Cox Covers Out Magazine
Just a wholesome, depressed, and loving trans girl…
I need kitty cuddles and my gf’s snuggles!
🏵️ What you cant see is how much I was struggling to get my whole outfit and tapestry in the same selfie 🏵️