Time To Tell The Truth
It is time to tell the truth. We all have had someone lie to us in the past. Don’t tell me that’s not true, because regardless of whether you know it or not, it has indeed happened. You may be sitting at home, or even at your work desk, whatever and wherever you are, thinking to yourself that this sounds like someone you know? Well, have you ever thought that could be you?
Now hear me out before anyone gets their socks in a knot, there are compulsive liars out there and people who talk before they’ve really thought it through. I am not saying you are one (moreso show this to someone who needs to read this). Lies hurt people! It doesn’t matter what you lie about, it doesn’t matter who you lie to, lies hurt people.
I know when I was younger, I was a compulsive liar. I wanted to get my way 100% of the time, so trust me I know how it feels. But I’ve also felt the guilt that comes with lying all the time. It triggered me to do bad things to myself. I’ve also been on the receiving end and let me tell you, it’s not fun. It hurts. Being lied to by someone you love and that you adore, that crap stings. It hits you in the core of your heart!
The issue here is not that we have the compulsive liars and the people who tell the truth, this isn’t a one side sees all thing here. If it is for your safety, and your life and mental well being are on the line, lie until you can get help. But when it comes to people who do it for selfish reasons, we can learn to change! Look at me! I have changed! I found out that turning your lies over and being honest gets you farther in life.
Alex, a member of my team, actually helped me with this. His input is: “I’ve been thinking of the times where I have to take ownership of a problem take the blame upon myself instead of pointing fingers, and I have found in doing so with honesty where I voluntarily take the blame of a problem and the implementation of a solution. People really like that, and even though I take the blame for being honest it’s a lot better for everyone. The consequences are usually much more positive than covering up the problems and pointing blame on the external. Help them take honest stock of themselves in things that happened and things people have done and implement positive solutions. Also, be aware of what circumstances lead up to when things go very well in life and try to remember what good decisions were made to stay in the “zone of proximal development.”
What alex means by zone proximal development is “The Zone of Proximal Development is defined as the space between what a learner can do without assistance and what a learner can do with adult guidance or in collaboration with more capable peers.” -Wikipedia
Lying has never been a good thing to do, unless it is necessary for survival, and if that’s the case, please reach out to us. On an ending note, we can and will take the time out of our day to not only tell the truth but to review how much easier it is to be honest with people. We got this!